Background...
I left my abusive ex and have moved in with a wonderful lovely DP with my DD and his DD.
When I was with ex DD was not allowed much freedom which I didnt agree with. Now I have given her lots of freedom, lots of shopping trips, money to go out with friends, two parties in six months (where her friends trashed the house), lots of sleep overs, contract phone. She basically has the easy life, my rules are...
go to school
be nice
tidy up after yourself
thats about it. DD is 15, her friends now call her spoilt, but after EX who begrudged anything I bought her I enjoyed spoiling her.
However in the last three months she has gone nuts. She is rude, she swears, if I tell her no she screams at me, threatens me, insults me. If I ground her she goes out, if I shout at her she shouts back, she threatens to hit me.
She has a boyfriend who treats her like dirt. One day she was screaming and crying at him down the phone so loud we couldnt hear the TV downstairs. I knocked on her door and asked her to be quiet but she just screamed at me to "fuck off".
In the last week her boyfriend has turned up drunk at the house after midnight and she expects me to let him stay. Once was 1.30am after he had been kicked out of home after a row with his brother. The night before I found out that he had been abusive to DD so I said no, she went balastic in the street, screaming and shouting with the neighbours complaining. She rings me at work screaming and shouting, even when I have told her that it will get me sacked.
The stuff she says is horrendous and DP hates that he has to listen to it and cant do anything to stop it. She does it with guests in the house. It is humilating.
She now has had a row with DSD. DD's boyfriend kept us all awake until 3.30am. The next day DSD put her music on at 11.30am and DD went nuts, and said some vile things about DSD's Mum (all over text) and DSD did say some horrible things back too.
Now DD is saying she wants me and her to move out into our own flat. I dont want to, I love DP, I have never been this happy in my life with someone. He is gentle and sweet and had ever even raised his voice at DD. He has helped her out in many ways, financially, emotionally etc.
I know if it was just me and her she would be even worse. WWYD?
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Attheendofmyteather · 29/07/2011 20:53
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