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AIBU to expect more notice

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essexmumma Fri 29-Jul-11 16:42:56

I am so angry but my DH has turned this on me - just want to gage opinion....

I returned to work part time recently (still in a probationary period) however i work from home on a friday. My husbands was was due to pick her up whilst i continued to work until my contracted finish time. We exchanged a few pleasantry emails during the dail but never once did he mention leaving work late.

10 minutes before my DC is due to be picked up i get an email saying he is over an hour away from getting her. I always knew this could happen sometimes and that a plan was in place but he needed to give me notice. I tried calling him to see what was going on but he just ignored the calls. I then had to check with my boss if this was ok, she was ok about it but i dont like taking the mickey.

He left work an hour and half late, which is fine but why not text me as soon as he realised he was leaving late so i can give work notice. The childminder was waiting to go out when i go there and DGP are at work.

AIBU to want some notice? he promised we would do this as a team.

Oblomov Fri 29-Jul-11 17:41:53

You had talked about these such events and they will happen, but for him not to have given you reasonbale notice, is totally unfair.

ZillionChocolate Fri 29-Jul-11 17:42:59

He should have told you as soon as he found out.

ImperialBlether Fri 29-Jul-11 17:45:24

I can't understand the post and can't understand how others can!

Who was due to be picked up and from where?

Sirzy Fri 29-Jul-11 17:47:55

Surely it depends why he was going to be late? if it was a case of an emergency happened meaning he couldn't get away then YABU. If he had known all day then YANBU

LineRunner Fri 29-Jul-11 17:48:41

The child was due to be picked up.

The husband emailed instead of texted in plenty of time that he couldn't do it.

OP wouldn't have minded except that he didn't give the right notice and just seemed to assume that she could drop everything coz she was working from home not an office, and he's gone AWOL anyway on a Friday eve.

Tchootnika Fri 29-Jul-11 17:50:32

YANBU, essex
Maybe you need to explain more about your job to DH, though?
It seems as if he thinks that since you work from home some days, you must be on some sort of happy-go-lucky flakey flexi-time - whereas he has a 'real' timetable?

clam Fri 29-Jul-11 17:52:01

You need to go absolutey ballistic in a calm, rational way grin to ensure he never takes the mickey like this again. Otherwise you're going to be on here a lot with repeat performances.

essexmumma Fri 29-Jul-11 18:05:17

thank you everyone and linerunner especially for explaining my rant! Apologies, i typed in sheer anger and far too fast.

I do keep trying to explain my work is just as important as his, even its only part time and from home mostly - my employers have been very flexible and pro rata we actually earn the same. He says he gets so wrapped up in work he forgets the time and his boss had to get his lunch - HE HAD TO GET HIS DD!!

It was lovely doing the pick up though and DD seemed pleased to see mesmile

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