This morning somehow DS (2yo) managed to reach my handbag (on a shelf), remove a pen from it, draw a picture on the living room floor (laminate) AND then leaked ink out of it (by breaking it) on my dining room carpet.
I was cross with him for being naughty (and with myself for not realising he could reach my bag whilst I was upstairs for a few minutes). But I was almost more annoyed with DD (almost 5) for watching him do it and not calling me (normally she can't wait for him to be in trouble!).
AIBU to be equally as cross with DD, or am I expecting too much of her?
I often used to be blamed for my younger brother's misdemeanours (I'm 46, you'd think I'd be over it by now ) and it used to really upset me. If she didn't realise he was doing it or she was doing something else at the time , I don't think it's fair for you to be cross at her too. If you think/believe she let him do it knowing that he would be in trouble, that's a whole other matter!
YABU.. but my two oldest are of a similar age and this sort of thing happens a lot, so I can relate to your feelings very much so. It is unreasonable to blame the oldest or even tell them off, but I know just what you mean!