without getting into the smacking debate? (just to make that clear), More of a general question of what works for you? Sticker charts, naughty step, etc? We're using a red STOP card with 3yo dd, and was just wondering if there is anything else I can try with a language delayed child? What works for you with your toddlers?
loss of privilages its the only thing that works for me. He gets one warning and I tell him what hes done wrong and then his Bike/psp or other stuff he enjoys gets removed for one day. If the behaviour continues he looses them for longer . Its tough but it does work
Callisto I did that with dd1, which worked with her, now send her (dd1 5yo) to her room, but dd2 just doesn't have the understanding of spoken language, (like talking to a 7month old), which is fine when they are 7months old, but at 3 she's more active than a 7month old, Iykwim.
Scenaro for you. Dd climbs up and pulls all DVDs of a shelf (4ft high), when I say stop, she doesn't, when I remove her, she goes back, continuously. take her out of the room for 5minute or so, or distract her with another toy, and she will just go back to the DVD shelf again. WWYD? (short of removing the DVDs because there's nowhere else to put them.
ive always went with stern talking to, or when really angry make them sit at the top of the hallway till im ready to deal with them then a stern talking to. if its just general naughtiness/over hyper etc usually saying their name in a strict mum voice does the job.
I think that you should only issue threats if you really mean it. So if you have gone to stay with relatives, and your toddler starts throwing toys, pulling the dog's tail, or whatever, then don't say "if you do that again we'll go home" unless you really are prepared to take the child home if the behaviour continues.
And like Worra said, if you allow something one day, then it's really unfair to not allow it the next. That way lies madness - children will try and get away with all sorts as they know there is a chance it will be a day when they're allowed to do something they know they really shouldn't.
I have a very very bold high spirited 9 year old. She is my youngest. The only thing that works with her is to be physically removed from the room. The 'look' means nothing to her, the 'tone' she will gladly ignore. My patience are very thin with her, but the more I give out to her the worse she is
I however think she is in a horrible spiral of negative attention, so my plan is to overly reward her for any kind of good behaviour. Literally catch her being good and praise her highly.