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to not understand why some parents have adult only living rooms

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carriedababi Wed 27-Jul-11 18:10:26

seems a bit mean to the childrento say this living room is adults only,
i can understand wanting your own space a bit in the bedroom, but to have an adults only living room...

well surely you live together as one family don't you.

LowLevelWhiiingeing Wed 27-Jul-11 18:12:37

because it's nice to have a room that doesn't have plastic crap in it smile

AgentZigzag Wed 27-Jul-11 18:13:38

A bit 'meeeaaan'?

Sometimes I want to talk to my DH without someone earwigging, or watch a program that has violence or adult themes (<snigger>) in it.

Y'know, stuff that adults do that's inappropriate for children to hear/see.

But if you let your children dictate what's going on in your house that's fine by me.

NoobytheWaspSlayer Wed 27-Jul-11 18:14:12

Not that I have one (not enough room), but I do think it would be rather nice to have one room that has not been colonised by plastic, that I could have my delicate/expensive stuff in without risk, and that I could walk into at the end of the day and relax without having to tidy it up first.

CogitoErgoSometimes Wed 27-Jul-11 18:14:55

YABU If kids can have 'playrooms' why can't parents have grown-up living rooms?

cornsilksy Wed 27-Jul-11 18:16:20

'But if you let your children dictate what's going on in your house that's fine by me.'
ooooh! very passive aggressive.

I agree with carrie.

Tryharder Wed 27-Jul-11 18:16:21

[looks around at living room full of kids, neighbours kids and plastic tat]

An adult- only living room would be fantastic....

thermosflask Wed 27-Jul-11 18:16:23

We are trying to keep the living room child free, but the little so and so's keep coming in.

kerala Wed 27-Jul-11 18:16:33

Because they have a big playroom we spend our days in in evenings dh and I have nice room to spend time in not surrounded by toys

Poweredbypepsi Wed 27-Jul-11 18:16:50

We have a playroom and a living room, the toys are meant to stay in the playroom but the children are welcome to come in the living room to watch tv and often bring a toy with them it's just to try and keep the mess under control.

AgentZigzag Wed 27-Jul-11 18:17:06

'a room that doesn't have plastic crap in it'

What on earth have you been eating to get that symptom LLW? grin

Iggly Wed 27-Jul-11 18:17:47

Yanbu. I'm of the view that it's DS house too so don't restrict rooms and don't ever plan to (he's only 22 months wink)

He goes to bed at half 7 by which time his toys are away so the living room is nice and tidy so we can have time to ourselves. As he's older I will expect stuff to be tidy but he will very much be a part of the family in the evenings. If he wants to go elsewhere or anyone else does then we'll create space somehow I'm sure!

carriedababi Wed 27-Jul-11 18:17:53

can't you watch your adult tv things when the children are in bed at night?
or do they go to bed late?

do you actually say children you are not allowed in here?

perhaps you even have an electric fence style gate instead of a doorwink

cornsilksy Wed 27-Jul-11 18:18:26

or a bouncer

faverolles Wed 27-Jul-11 18:19:30

If I had a house big enough, I would have a "nice" sitting room and one for the dc. The dc would be allowed in the nice room, but it would not be a place to play in. Civilised conversation and tv watching only.

As it is, my house is tiny and the whole thing is a pit of despair.

EttiKetti Wed 27-Jul-11 18:20:11

We have two reception rooms (I put that to avoid the lounge/sitting room/living room dilemma) and one is very much a comfy room and one more adult. The adult room gets infiltrated by children on a daily basis as it has the best TV grin I do allow them to play in there but not eat or drink, and all evidence toys must be cleared away when they leave the room.

I hate finally getting to my sitting down time at about 8-9pm and having to clear up before I can sit and relax for a little while, so I made this little "rule". It works for us!

poppysweetie Wed 27-Jul-11 18:20:39

I can only dream of it. Maybe in 14 years or so.

carriedababi Wed 27-Jul-11 18:20:54

rofl at bouncergrin

"if your name's not down, your not coming in"

iggagog Wed 27-Jul-11 18:22:06

I don't think it's the children I'd want to keep out so much as the stuff. It would be nice not to have kids' tv, dvds, bits of food etc not to mention the plastic crap!

nojustificationneeded Wed 27-Jul-11 18:23:22

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

cornsilksy Wed 27-Jul-11 18:25:26

Other people's clean houses are bad for self-esteem

carriedababi Wed 27-Jul-11 18:26:13

here perhaps a guard dog would be helpful wink

SoupDragon Wed 27-Jul-11 18:26:26

The house I am currently dreaming about on Rightmove will have a large family living space in the middle, a Children's den on the left and my living room on the right. no chidren will be allowed in my room.

I am sick and tired of the living room being invaded by toys and other assorted crap when they have a play room.

Schtum Wed 27-Jul-11 18:28:11

We didn't "ban" our kids from the sitting room but it did work well for us to have all the toys in the playroom and have a sitting room that was a bit of a sanctuary from all their stuff.

Our DDs are 17 and 15 now, so we don't have the plastic crap thing any more but they do like to watch all sorts of rubbish on the telly that DH and I don't want to be around so it still works quite well for us to continue to have two sitting rooms.

Each to their own, of course, but I quite like to have some space that isn't dominated by kids.

squeakytoy Wed 27-Jul-11 18:28:18

I grew up in a house that had a living room, and a "front room". The front room was out of bounds... at all times. I had a bedroom to play in or chill out in as I got older, or I could sit in the living room with my parents.. (like I really wanted to do that in my teens grin ).. .but the front room was used only if my parents had visitors other than a neighbour dropping in, or at Christmas.

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