I honestly don't know what to do about this, I am incandescent and devastated for my DD (10) and would appreciate any help on how to deal with this.
About 4 months ago we moved to a new area about a mile from our old house. My DD still attends the same school but unlike our old house, there are hardly any kids where we live (I actually hate it here but that's another thread) and she's been quite lonely since we moved having got used to playing out and being able to call for friends.
In her year they have a combined yr5/6 class and one of the older girls in DD's class lives in this area, so she got to know this girl, so had one 'friend' round here. This older girl who I will call 'B' invited my DD and another friend for a sleepover a couple of months ago, and my DD came back upset and a bit confused as this girl had fallen out with her and had kept her up half the night making a huge drama out of it.
A few days later my DD told me that this girl and a gang of her friends had followed her into the toilets at school and pushed and threatened her. I rang her teacher the following day who told me that DD had confided in her before it happened that she was worried 'B' would do this as DD had seen something at this girl's house that had gone missing at school and mentioned it at the sleepover, which is why this girl had threatened my DD and turned nasty with her. The teacher reassured me that it had been dealt with and said she was as shocked as I at the nastiness displayed by this gang of girls and said that 'B' and a few others in that year 6 group were known to staff as troublemakers. Her advice was that DD steer clear of 'B' as much as she could. I agreed and DD stopped playing out and avoided this girl at school.
So all ok, until a couple of weeks ago my DD said this girl had made friends with her again. I obviously didn't want her going anywhere near but my DD begged to be allowed to go up to where this girl lives and the local park (about 10 mins walk) and with worries of her being bored all summer, gave in. She's been playing out with this girl and some other girls the same age (11-12) and has been getting on ok apart from a couple of incidents, ie (the older kids bossing her around and getting her to do stuff, such as tying their shoelaces ) I have told her to say 'no' and not let them tell her what to do).
I was still worried that this girl may turn on her again so made sure DD never left the house without her phone. Today I had DD ringing me on the way back in bits saying that they had all ganged up on her (several 11yr olds and an older girl of 14) and started being verbally nasty (going off in huddles and bitching etc), started insulting her, telling her she was fat and ugly (amongst other nasty things) and called her a slag, slut and a whore!!
Then the older girl grabbed her by the hair and pulled it, then they walked off sneering and laughing.
My DD was just so upset when she got back and I am livid. I have the address and home phone number of 'B' who was the ringleader and I was going to march around there tonight and see her mother but I was so angry I thought I'd better calm down before I act.
What should I do? DH persuaded me to not go round and sleep on it. Any advice appreciated thanks.
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to be fucking livid about my 10 yr old DD being ganged up on and called a whore!!!
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inatrance · 26/07/2011 23:53
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