first post in aibu, but I'm prepared to be told I am.
I got engaged in January and some of my family gave me money. Long story short, I am no longer getting married. This money is in a separate account and every time I look at it it upsets me. Obviously I don't feel I can keep it/spend it under the circumstances.
Some of the money is from my aunt. I'm meeting with my cousins tomorrow, so would it be unreasonable to put the money in an envelope with a letter saying I really appreciate it, but can't keep the money, and then give it to my cousins to give to my aunt?
My other aunt also gave me some money but I won't see her for a while so I would have to send her a cheque again with a letter explaining.
The last of the money is from my nan. She has just given me a cheque for the same amount for graduation, so would it be ok to just say to her thanks, but I won't be paying the cheque in?
I know that all these people would say tell me to keep the money, but it's in a separate account and I don't think I could ever bring myself to spend it. I know I should do this in person, but I don't want to put them in a position where they feel they have to say 'don't worry you keep it' iyswim.
However, I don't want to look ungrateful/rude/cowardly either.
I now hand over to the mn jury...
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vegetariandumpling · 26/07/2011 22:58
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