We dont have a car and we rarely get lifts places but when DHs computer broke BIL offered him a lift to take it in to the shop because it seemed a little foolhardy to carry the computer on the train (its what he runs his business on it is not cheap and we dont live in the nicest of areas).Anyway for some reason BIL parked in a bus lane, I dont know why he did this but anyway they got a ticket for causing an obstruction which was £30. We offeres to pay the ticket since they were doing us a favour they said no. now we heard they are not speaking to us because of this...we didnt force them to park in a bus lane (plenty of parking nearby) and we offered to pay the ticket?
They are being stupid. You offered to pay the fine, what more do they want?
Perhaps a note or call saying that you are confused to learn that they are annoyed, since when this happened, you offered to pay the fine and they said no.
Or perhaps they were expecting that stupid stupid thing people do we'll pay no, it's alright no, I insist Wouldn't dream of it, old chap No no, you really must let me not at all, it's fine No, you have to. oh well, ok then, you twisted my arm
but instead, you did we'll pay no, it's alright oh, ok then
See, people are weird and they almost never say what they mean.
yes SIL is very volatile many arguments with various family members!. I really cant think what else it would be about since we rarely see them DH talks to his brother about hobbies occasionally but thats it. We only heard today that they were upset with us from MIL they even avoided coming on a holiday which the rest of the family (10 + people) were on because of it aparently. DH and MIL are of the opinion to just leave it but i hate disagreements hanging over me.
"I am sorry to learn that you are annoyed. We did offer to pay this at the time and you said no, but since you are cross nonetheless, here it is. I would not like such a small sum to cause friction between us."
TheMagnificentBathykolpian the conversation was basically - ok we will pay it for you they said no we said well if you want us to do it over the phone or online (how they said to pay it) we can just do that again no. So we left it. We assumed they actually meant no, although when i think about it maybe they were expecting us to beg or something - DH and i are quite straightforward if we say no then it means no not maybe. Maybe SIL and BIL are different.
Presumably BIL parked where he did while your DH went into the computer shop. There was nothing to stop BIL then saying, "Right I'll go to XYZ car park. Meet me there or ring me when you are ready for me to pick you up."
The fact he left the car in a daft place like that, he deserves the ticket, IMO. Leave 'em to it.