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TelephoneTree Tue 26-Jul-11 21:09:25

My 4 year old DS is going to be looked after by another family's nanny for 3 days over the holidays, while she's looking after the other family's children (they're all friends, play really well together and the other family are happy for this to happen).

Now I asked her how much she charges and she said that she charges £9 per hour but is happy to take less as she's looking after the others anyway. I asked if she charges £9 per child and she said 'per family'.

What is usual in this situation?? I have no experience at all.

TheMagnificentBathykolpian Tue 26-Jul-11 21:11:09

No idea. Why don't you ask her what she is willing to take and then you can decide whether you are willing to pay that?

valiumredhead Tue 26-Jul-11 21:12:41

If she said £9 per hour, then it's £9 per hour confused

RitaMorgan Tue 26-Jul-11 21:13:07

She's employed by the other family at £9 an hour then. I would offer at least £6 an hour for her to take your child too.

Sewmuchtodo Tue 26-Jul-11 21:19:57

Well it depends........
How many hrs will she have your DS each day? Who will supply his food, drinks, ice lollies etc?

PercyPigPie Tue 26-Jul-11 21:26:37

Shouldn't you be paying the other family, not her?

valiumredhead Tue 26-Jul-11 21:29:40

Why would she pay the other family? confused

youarekidding Tue 26-Jul-11 21:32:36

How many children do the other family have? I she charges £9/hr regardless of how many children in a family she may not charge more which means you should be paying the family who pay her. Probably your share of £9 split between No of children.

Alternatively, could you maybe suggest to nanny that you pay for her to take all the children somewhere on one of the days each week? The other family may like to now their children will get a day out (free for the family) and nanny may well like the idea of a day out each week? You need to discuss with nanny and other family all together.

TheSecondComing Tue 26-Jul-11 21:35:06

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

valiumredhead Tue 26-Jul-11 21:35:40

You need to be slightly careful about paying her less than £9 per hour - her employers might not be too happy knowing you are getting their Nanny's services for a cheaper rate than they pay. Just a thought.

TelephoneTree Tue 26-Jul-11 21:36:25

Thanks everyone.
The other family has 2 children.
She's be looking after my DS for a long 8-6 day.
The other family is expecting to continue to pay their £9 per hour and are happy for my DS to be around as they all actively like each other.
I'm assuming that I will send him with a packed lunch (or pack of sausages or something to contribute towards a group lunch) and snacks and maybe money for all to have an ice lolly or something.

GandTiceandaslice Tue 26-Jul-11 21:36:55

At £9 per hour.
For example if she has them for 8 hours for the 3 days then thats £216 in total.

youarekidding Tue 26-Jul-11 21:38:01

It sounds like to have a good relationship with the nannies employers. Why not ask them what they think?

TelephoneTree Tue 26-Jul-11 21:39:38

it's a 10 hour day.
I did ask the family and they said she charges x amount but prob wouldn't accept that for mine as she's already looking after the 2 kids...

It's a tricky one isn't it??

RitaMorgan Tue 26-Jul-11 21:40:28

She isn't charging her employers anything, or charging them per child - they employ her at a rate of £9 an hour.

Your deal with her is a separate thing, and given that it is likely to be cash in hand I'd offer her babysitting rates (I'd go with £6).

bestmate Tue 26-Jul-11 21:46:18

I was just going to repeat what Rita has mentioned, if it is cash in hand on top of an already set agreement, Id offer £5 or £6 an hour. ( I pay our baby sitter £5 an hour) she may happily then take less as it is cash.

Laquitar Tue 26-Jul-11 22:05:42

What Rita said. £6 ph. I was nanny many years ago and i've done this many times. I used to charge about 2/3 of my normal rate.

Some host families can be funny and try to have a deduction but since you know them and they dont after a deduction then just suggest to the nanny 6ph and in the meantime mention it to the family so that you are 100% sure everything is ok.

youarekidding Tue 26-Jul-11 22:09:09

Maybe suggest £5 p/hr cash in hand and the extra £1/hr so a tenner to be given for nanny to provide ice-cream for all the dc's. That way family who employ nanny get some gain too? I really think as they are doing you a favour they should gain somewhat even if they are happy with the arrangement.

Sewmuchtodo Wed 27-Jul-11 09:43:19

I agree with Youarekidding, so £150 for babysitting and £30 for treats.

marriedinwhite Wed 27-Jul-11 09:52:17

When my ds was small the family next door had a nanny. The nanny occasionally looked after DS for the day or a half day (maybe once every three months). When the nanny was sick or needed doctor/dentist appointment, I used to step in. No money ever changed hands. Have times changed?

RitaMorgan Wed 27-Jul-11 09:55:05

Sounds like your agreement was with the employers rather than the nanny - they provided childcare for you in exchange for you providing childcare for them. The OP is coming to an agreement with the nanny herself.

marriedinwhite Wed 27-Jul-11 10:00:15

That's the bit that bothers me I think. If the nanny is employed it shouldn't really be her decision but that of the employers. I don't think I'd go there.

Mollymax Wed 27-Jul-11 10:10:45

When I was a nanny, many years ago. My employers had an arrangement with another family in the village. I used to have the other familys two children, if their nanny was off sick or holidays.
I was never given any extra money for this.
I suppose it depends on who first suggested this arrangement as to how it is funded.

Laquitar Wed 27-Jul-11 10:30:21

No it should be arranged with the nanny (with her employers permission that she can take extra work).
The bonus is that the second family gets childcare, the nanny gets some extra cash, and the first family looks good to both and have a happy nanny.

Arranging this ONLY with the other family wouldn't be on at all.

northerngirl41 Wed 27-Jul-11 10:45:53

I'd say you need to ask the other family too - after all the nanny's time is divided between their two kids for £9/hour... If yours is added into the mix, that's less time/attention being paid to their kids.

Assuming they are okay with it, I'd pay £4.50/hour to add in your child as she's getting £4.50/child/hour.

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