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AIBU?

Am I being U and PFB?

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Floopy21 · 26/07/2011 18:36

Three people in the last week have tried to feed my 6.5month old DD sugar in various forms (a cake with all the E numbers & palm oil & crap in it), a sugar cube dipped in cappuccino froth & some galaxy chocolate. Am I being unreasonable to refuse? The thought of her having such rubbish at such a young age disgusts me TBH (I know, a little PFB!) They made me feel like I was being unfair on her not to let her have it.
Should I lighten up? (actually, I'm just interested in opnions, whatever the response, she's still not having it yet!!)

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CocktailQueen · 26/07/2011 18:37

YANBU! People can be bonkers!!!

mumatron · 26/07/2011 18:37

No yanbu. Your baby your rules.

worraliberty · 26/07/2011 18:38

Bloody hell a sugar cube?

I don't 'do' the sugar/salt hysteria and pearl clutching but even I'm shocked at that!

Groovee · 26/07/2011 18:38

I flipped when dd was 8 weeks old and my mum gave her a chip!!! She was born early so didn't need chips at 8 weeks. I don't get why people are so keen to feed babies crap before they are aware of it.

skybluepearl · 26/07/2011 18:39

your baby your rules i agree. same happened to me and i thought it was completely out of order

Hassled · 26/07/2011 18:39

Well the odd bit of sugar here and there really isn't going to do her any lasting damage. And you can argue that she needs to be exposed to a range of tastes/flavours (yes I know it's sugar so that's not really an argument).

But you're her mother, you call the shots. If you're not happy about it they should respect that. I'm assuming we're talking grandparents here? Maybe ask them if their mothers meddled when you were a baby and whether they were happy with that.

TidyDancer · 26/07/2011 18:39

YANBU, as long as you do allow her the occasional sweet/treat as she grows up. I'm a great believer that to put something off limits to a child, just makes it more appealing and yummy when they get it.

IslaValargeone · 26/07/2011 18:39

Sugar cube, are you serious? No you are not BU.

mummytotwoboys · 26/07/2011 18:40

Let her have it - they will only want it more if you dont. I have a 4 yr old and a 2 yr old who eat everything (not fussy at all) from chips to brussel sprouts and tbh, at a buffet or picnic they always go for the grapes / cucumber / carrot sticks etc before the cakes or sweeties. I honestly believe this is because they have been allowed choclate buttons and wotsits etc since they could eat. my friends kids who werent allowed any "crap" always want chocolate and sweets these days and wont touch the fruit! This is just in my experience :)

MedusaIsHavingABadHairDay · 26/07/2011 18:40

Well my kids are older teens now and we didn't have quite the same 'food panic' that seems to prevail over weaning etc these days... but I still don't think you are being unreasonable :)

Eventually your DD will taste the nicer (ie bad for you) things in life, but it doesn't need to be yet..and I wouldn't want anyone giving my child food I hadn't agreed to at that age!! I tried to avoid the rubbish until I had established them with decent food because I knew sooner or later they would discover chocolate..

You aren't being unfair.. you are being sensible!!!

eaglewings · 26/07/2011 18:45

UANBU

alowVera · 26/07/2011 18:45

YANBU.
I remember DD1 being given chocolate by mil at about 4mths, I went absolutely mental at her, refused to let her see DD for about 2 mths. (previously had been seeing her every week).
Have caught mil giving dd other foodstuffs that I have "banned" and will quite obviously removed said foods from dd's hand/mouth and given it back to mil..
She (mil) behaves herself now. (most of the time)
I think you should stand your ground. Your child your rules.

LetThereBeRock · 26/07/2011 18:46

YANBU.

Mummyto2boys,The OP's dd is only 6.5 months,not years. I'm in favour of allowing children to have some sweet foods,but not when they're this age,and barely weaned.

alowVera · 26/07/2011 18:48

mummytotwoboys dd1 was not allowed crap she will invariably ask for fruit when at friends houses/party's.

basingstoke · 26/07/2011 18:49

Um. The E numbers and palm oil and crap bit makes you sound a bit PFB really, but she is pretty small so it is allowed. My brother and SIL wouldn't let my nephew eay chocolate at all for a year. They reckoned it meant he wouldn;t develop a taste for it. Now they bribe him with chocolate buttons

TidyDancer · 26/07/2011 18:52

alowVera, you stopped your MIL from seeing your DD for two months because of chocolate?! Wow.

LineRunner · 26/07/2011 18:54

Christ no, YANBU.

You carry on being however you want to be over this.

A fecking sugar cube? Will no-one think of the children...

alowVera · 26/07/2011 18:54

In my defence I had PND and the chocolate to a child who I hadn't even started weaning was the straw that broke the camels back.
To be fair mil could have come to our house to see dd, but she never did, I just refused to take dd there. Bit of a My house my rules kinda stance.

alowVera · 26/07/2011 18:56

(and a tiny bit BU of me)

yoshiLunk · 26/07/2011 18:58

You are not being at all unreasonable - your child, your rules, absolutely - and your DD is so young!

I tried to keep the bad stuff away from my DC but eventually it did creep in, but I was lucky enough that others didn't force it upon them.

You should just say "no I don't want her to have that yet, - I'm sure I'll give into it sometime but not yet, thanks" "there's plenty of time for her to have junk food - no hurry to give it to her now"

TidyDancer · 26/07/2011 18:59

I'm glad you see that now! I agree it wasn't ideal for MIL to do that, but I'm stunned that a piece of chocolate could be taken that seriously!

:)

ChunkyPickle · 26/07/2011 19:01

Your child, your rules, but really it won't harm her.

I did have to have a word when I realised that my MIL and FIL had given my 10 month old ice-cream every single day when they came to visit :O

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exoticfruits · 26/07/2011 19:01

Nothing PFB about it-I can't think why anyone would do it. YANBU.

squeakytoy · 26/07/2011 19:06

chocolate and sugar in moderation are not poison you know...

what is it with all this "bad stuff"... it is only bad if it is the entire diet, not a small part of a broad ranged healthy diet...

alowVera · 26/07/2011 19:09

tidydancer It was taken very seriously at the time, as I said it was the last straw, it followed mil's attempt to formula feed dd1, (I'm not anti formula by any means dd2 was mix-fed) dd1 however spent the night projectile vomiting.
Anyways back on track it should be the parents to decide what to feed their DCs and when. It shouldn't be forced by anyone else.

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