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Am I being U and PFB?

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Floopy21 Tue 26-Jul-11 18:36:06

Three people in the last week have tried to feed my 6.5month old DD sugar in various forms (a cake with all the E numbers & palm oil & crap in it), a sugar cube dipped in cappuccino froth & some galaxy chocolate. Am I being unreasonable to refuse? The thought of her having such rubbish at such a young age disgusts me TBH (I know, a little PFB!) They made me feel like I was being unfair on her not to let her have it.
Should I lighten up? (actually, I'm just interested in opnions, whatever the response, she's still not having it yet!!)

CocktailQueen Tue 26-Jul-11 18:37:33

YANBU! People can be bonkers!!!

mumatron Tue 26-Jul-11 18:37:46

No yanbu. Your baby your rules.

worraliberty Tue 26-Jul-11 18:38:07

Bloody hell a sugar cube? shock

I don't 'do' the sugar/salt hysteria and pearl clutching but even I'm shocked at that!

Groovee Tue 26-Jul-11 18:38:08

I flipped when dd was 8 weeks old and my mum gave her a chip!!! She was born early so didn't need chips at 8 weeks. I don't get why people are so keen to feed babies crap before they are aware of it.

skybluepearl Tue 26-Jul-11 18:39:04

your baby your rules i agree. same happened to me and i thought it was completely out of order

Hassled Tue 26-Jul-11 18:39:21

Well the odd bit of sugar here and there really isn't going to do her any lasting damage. And you can argue that she needs to be exposed to a range of tastes/flavours (yes I know it's sugar so that's not really an argument).

But you're her mother, you call the shots. If you're not happy about it they should respect that. I'm assuming we're talking grandparents here? Maybe ask them if their mothers meddled when you were a baby and whether they were happy with that.

TidyDancer Tue 26-Jul-11 18:39:43

YANBU, as long as you do allow her the occasional sweet/treat as she grows up. I'm a great believer that to put something off limits to a child, just makes it more appealing and yummy when they get it.

IslaValargeone Tue 26-Jul-11 18:39:55

Sugar cube, are you serious? No you are not BU.

mummytotwoboys Tue 26-Jul-11 18:40:21

Let her have it - they will only want it more if you dont. I have a 4 yr old and a 2 yr old who eat everything (not fussy at all) from chips to brussel sprouts and tbh, at a buffet or picnic they always go for the grapes / cucumber / carrot sticks etc before the cakes or sweeties. I honestly believe this is because they have been allowed choclate buttons and wotsits etc since they could eat. my friends kids who werent allowed any "crap" always want chocolate and sweets these days and wont touch the fruit! This is just in my experience smile

MedusaIsHavingABadHairDay Tue 26-Jul-11 18:40:59

Well my kids are older teens now and we didn't have quite the same 'food panic' that seems to prevail over weaning etc these days... but I still don't think you are being unreasonable smile

Eventually your DD will taste the nicer (ie bad for you) things in life, but it doesn't need to be yet..and I wouldn't want anyone giving my child food I hadn't agreed to at that age!! I tried to avoid the rubbish until I had established them with decent food because I knew sooner or later they would discover chocolate..

You aren't being unfair.. you are being sensible!!!

eaglewings Tue 26-Jul-11 18:45:10


alowVera Tue 26-Jul-11 18:45:53

I remember DD1 being given chocolate by mil at about 4mths, I went absolutely mental at her, refused to let her see DD for about 2 mths. (previously had been seeing her every week).
Have caught mil giving dd other foodstuffs that I have "banned" and will quite obviously removed said foods from dd's hand/mouth and given it back to mil..
She (mil) behaves herself now. (most of the time)
I think you should stand your ground. Your child your rules.

LetThereBeRock Tue 26-Jul-11 18:46:04


Mummyto2boys,The OP's dd is only 6.5 months,not years. I'm in favour of allowing children to have some sweet foods,but not when they're this age,and barely weaned.

alowVera Tue 26-Jul-11 18:48:13

mummytotwoboys dd1 was not allowed crap she will invariably ask for fruit when at friends houses/party's.

basingstoke Tue 26-Jul-11 18:49:59

Um. The E numbers and palm oil and crap bit makes you sound a bit PFB really, but she is pretty small so it is allowed. My brother and SIL wouldn't let my nephew eay chocolate at all for a year. They reckoned it meant he wouldn;t develop a taste for it. Now they bribe him with chocolate buttons grin

TidyDancer Tue 26-Jul-11 18:52:02

alowVera, you stopped your MIL from seeing your DD for two months because of chocolate?! Wow.

LineRunner Tue 26-Jul-11 18:54:46

Christ no, YANBU.

You carry on being however you want to be over this.

A fecking sugar cube? Will no-one think of the children...

alowVera Tue 26-Jul-11 18:54:48

In my defence I had PND and the chocolate to a child who I hadn't even started weaning was the straw that broke the camels back.
To be fair mil could have come to our house to see dd, but she never did, I just refused to take dd there. Bit of a My house my rules kinda stance.

alowVera Tue 26-Jul-11 18:56:27

(and a tiny bit BU of me)

yoshiLunk Tue 26-Jul-11 18:58:25

You are not being at all unreasonable - your child, your rules, absolutely - and your DD is so young!

I tried to keep the bad stuff away from my DC but eventually it did creep in, but I was lucky enough that others didn't force it upon them.

You should just say "no I don't want her to have that yet, - I'm sure I'll give into it sometime but not yet, thanks" "there's plenty of time for her to have junk food - no hurry to give it to her now"

TidyDancer Tue 26-Jul-11 18:59:51

I'm glad you see that now! I agree it wasn't ideal for MIL to do that, but I'm stunned that a piece of chocolate could be taken that seriously!

<ignores fact that chocolate is life blood in this house>


ChunkyPickle Tue 26-Jul-11 19:01:17

Your child, your rules, but really it won't harm her.

I did have to have a word when I realised that my MIL and FIL had given my 10 month old ice-cream every single day when they came to visit :O

exoticfruits Tue 26-Jul-11 19:01:38

Nothing PFB about it-I can't think why anyone would do it. YANBU.

squeakytoy Tue 26-Jul-11 19:06:48

chocolate and sugar in moderation are not poison you know... grin

what is it with all this "bad stuff"... it is only bad if it is the entire diet, not a small part of a broad ranged healthy diet...

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