I'd like him to have a lovely time, not thinking or worrying about his old mum too much, and then give me a big hug when he returns. Not vain or needy enough to think that I should automatically trump relatives or other hosts. (Although bit miffed that he prefers his Granny's meat and potato pies from bloody Asda to my lovingly home made creations....)
No, absolutely not - I am delighted that my DS is a happy, confident independent individual. I have always said (sorry if this sounds morbid) - 'how would DS cope if I died?' - my aim is to raise a child that can live independently from me and DH.
I do think some parents are much more 'needy' about their children than the children themselves .
Have a son away at cub camp at the moment and I just want him to be happy and enjoy himself with his friends without giving home a second thought.
A long time ago, when I was a nanny, the grandma of the kids I looked after was a retired teacher. She always said that the children who were homesick/upset on school trips were the ones who had unhappy home lives.
She said that instead of being glad to be getting away (as you might assume), they would be longing to be at home to check everything was alright and would be worrying about what rows/fall-outs were happening that they did not know about and would have to face on their return.
This really struck a chord with me due to my own upbringing and has coloured my view on homesickness ever since. I'm not saying it is a hard and fast rule BTW before I get flamed!!