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NorfolkBroad Tue 26-Jul-11 08:31:07

When do you think it is ok to leave your child home alone for say 15 -20 mins while you pop to the corner shop?

Sewmuchtodo Tue 26-Jul-11 08:32:37

When they are at secondary school.

youmeatsix Tue 26-Jul-11 08:32:45

you will get a lot of answers "child dependant"
and it is really

Fuzzywuzzywozabear Tue 26-Jul-11 08:39:05

I started doing it when they were in year 6 (to get them ready for going to high school)

NorfolkBroad Tue 26-Jul-11 08:39:06

yes, you are right, it is a tricky one. thank you though.

joric Tue 26-Jul-11 08:42:34

Year 6/7 smile

HarrietJones Tue 26-Jul-11 08:56:00

I would with dd1(11) but not dd2(9).

theredhen Tue 26-Jul-11 09:13:04

Yep depends on child. However I do know that lots of my friends started allowing it year 6/7.

cory Tue 26-Jul-11 09:17:25

I was fine with age 7-8 for such a short trip- but then I am foreign and expect a lot of maturity of my dcs. And I have to say they have never let me down.

bruffin Tue 26-Jul-11 09:25:34

Around 8 - depending on the child.

QOD Tue 26-Jul-11 09:29:18

I left my dd yesterday for the first time ever - was for 45 mins while I did the shopping in the town about 3 miles away. She is 12.7 and will be in year 8 in September. Longest before that was only like 5 mins.
Depends on your child, mines an "only" and didn't want to be left ....

cory Tue 26-Jul-11 09:33:53

I think QOD makes a good point: listening to your child is part of the process. Mine have spent a lot of time in Sweden where it is quite normal for children to stay at home and play while their parents go shopping, or to play outside unsupervised, so they took that for granted.

squeakytoy Tue 26-Jul-11 09:35:53

At the age of 7 I was able to go to the shop for my mum, so equally she was able to go to the shop and leave me indoors for a short period of time.. probably no more than an hour.

I was a sensible kid though, and mature for my age.

Themumsnot Tue 26-Jul-11 09:37:58

With mine around 8/9. Youngest is 9 now and I would leave her for 15 min - but will leave her in charge of my 14-year-old for an hour or two. My 11-year-old I would leave on her own for up to an hour, but not in sole charge of the 9-year-old. It depends on maturity levels and as others have said, how comfortable they feel with the situation. I once had the 11-year-old son of a neighbour arrive at my door in a complete panic because he thought his mum had gone out and left him alone - she was actually having a shower and didn't hear him calling her.

Themumsnot Tue 26-Jul-11 09:38:55

Duh - meant in the charge of not in charge of the 14-year-old

NorfolkBroad Tue 26-Jul-11 09:44:39

I was the same Squeakytoy. I used to do my mums' shopping when I was 7. Plus I used to walk to junior school from that age and it was a 2.5 mile journey. All my friends did the same so I often had company. Am I imagining it or are "things different" now to the way they were in the 70's?

HermioneRocks Tue 26-Jul-11 10:47:24

I leave my ds aged nearly 10 for up to half an hour and hvae done for a few months

DialsMavis Tue 26-Jul-11 10:52:16

age 8ish depending on child. I would leave DS on his own but not when he has a friend round.

seeker Tue 26-Jul-11 10:55:33

When your child wants you to.(within reason obviously) in our family, 7 ish for ds, 10 and even then she had to nerve herself up for it for dd.

CogitoErgoSometimes Tue 26-Jul-11 11:01:46

The only thing different between now and the seventies is that parents were rather more relaxed. The world wasn't any more or less dangerous than it is now. I don't know when it became fashionable to hover over kids 24/7 but I don't think it's progress. To answer your question. When DS got to Y6 I felt he'd be OK left for a period of time at home. He's a sensible kid and is usually quite glad to see the back of me. smile

itisnearlysummer Tue 26-Jul-11 11:06:02

My DS was 10. I wouldn't have left him before that. I would have trusted him not to do anything silly, but know that he would have panicked if the front door/telephone had gone. So it wasn't appropriate and he didn't want it.

He's now 12.5. We leave him for an hour or so while we do the shopping but wouldn't leave him for longer than 1.5 hrs and make sure that we all have mobiles and he can contact a neighbour, just in case.

Wouldn't leave him with his Dsis or a friend. Too much responsibility.

It's about making sure that he feels/is safe.

startail Tue 26-Jul-11 11:06:40

DD2 from 10, if she doesn't want to collect her sister from music which takes about 20 minutes.
DD1 is 13 and quite happy to let herself in or be left for an hour or so.
I've never left them together for more than 30 minutes, I think you'd get an hour tops before they got on each others nerves.

basingstoke Tue 26-Jul-11 11:08:12

DS wasn't ready until 9. DD is fine at 7.

Kladdkaka Tue 26-Jul-11 11:09:03

My daughter is 17 and I still try to take her with me. But then she's a bugger for accidently setting the microwave/cooker/hairdryer/whatever on fire.

basingstoke Tue 26-Jul-11 11:09:06

I wouldn't leave them together (10 and 7). They are more sensible alone...

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