My daughter has a friend at nursery who would ask me if she could come and play every time I saw her. I kept meaning to drop a note for her mum with my phone number to invite them over seeing as the girls got on so well. I didn't end up doing this until meeting the mum very briefly at another girl's bday party and I mentioned my intentions.
A few weeks later I left a note for the mum with my phone number. I never did hear from her.
Months later I take dd to another bday party. At the end of the party this mum turns up to collect her dd. I was across the room and I smiled at her. Neither of us ended up speaking to each other.
I invite her daughter to my dd's bday party. She texts me and says they'll be coming. A week or so later there is a little show at the nursery, she sits behind me, I turn around and say, 'Hi!', I smile and she seems uncomfortable.
It's dd's party, some man I don't recognise with an older girl turns up. It's dd's friend, her older sister and a very uncomfortable looking dad. The dad drops the girls off, tells me he will be back at the end of the party. Doesn't leave a phone number or anything.
Can't help but think the mum thinks I'm nuts and is avoiding me. Was my smile slightly unhinged from across the room? (Although why would she leave her 2 children alone at a party with someone she thinks is nuts??)
Re the party - the Dad felt uncomfortable because he was outside his comfort zone, not because it was your party. And why would it occur to him to leave a phone number? He had been dragooned into dropping off & collecting, not running his DD's social calendar. As to why it was him & not his DW who did the dropping/collecting, who knows? Her long-lost step-sister turned up from Australia that morning.
PMSL at PortBlack ! I find it very overwhelming when people constantly try and arrange play dates. There was one mother who used to practically harass me into it. She would text, email and phone me to arrange something. She once guilted me into meeting up because she had already told her dd, and dd would be disappointed and upset I'm not very good at the whole meeting up with people for the sake of the kids. Usually meet up with people that I like and dd plays with their kids. Saying that, most of those friends are people I got to know at dd's school and dd is friends with and the playdates happened from there IYSWIM I feel very uncomfortable around people I don't know. They often ask about dd's dad (who hasn't been in the picture at all for a long time) and my immediate family would not look out of place on a Jeremy Kyle show. I find my life very difficult to talk about and, although I realise that this is just standard conversation, they're not the sort of conversations I want to have with people I don't really know - and who may well judge me on my past. I don't think you seem crazy, but I think it's best you just leave it, as they obviously aren't interested. You may seem crazy if you seem to be pursuing them though