my sister is obsessed with having a baby. She is with a guy who is a total selfish arse isn't really right for her. He doesn't treat her particularly well and has decided (after promising her marriage and children to begin with) that he doesn't want kids yet if ever.
She's been in a few long term relationships and I think she feels her biological clock ticking so she won't end it with this guy (they live together) and instead has decided she'll trick him into getting her pregnant by letting her implant run out and not telling him.
They don't make each other happy, they're like chalk and cheese, they both work full time but she does everything around the house and he never lifts a finger, they don't like each others families, they disagree on certain fundamental things regarding raising children (he sees no harm in beating a child as it's how he was raised and she wells up just at the thought of a child having a hand raised to them), he avoids being with her even though they live together and goes out with his friends straight from work til late, he complains about the food she cooks but won't cook and she always does the shopping on her own, he hates her taste in decor, films, books etc, they have very few similar interests and he doesn't treat her with much respect....... But she reeeeeeally wants to start having babies.
She seems to think he would commit to her this way. She's not stupid and really should know better but her judgment is horribly off. I can see it going badly - he'll feel tricked and betrayed, he may bond with the child but his relationship with her would be irreparably damaged. He'd resent her for 'trapping' him into fatherhood before he was ready, she'd be resentful and jealous if he were to love the child more than her and they'd end up in this hateful horrible mess...
She just won't listen to reason and thinks once she's pregnant he'll 'come around'... Should I anonymously warn him? Or mind my own business? I just don't want to see her trap herself in such an awful situation, and especially don't want to see an innocent child trapped in it...
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To tell on her? Bit long, sorry
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GeorgeWeasleysGirl · 25/07/2011 19:45
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