Is this quite normal?

[elisadoeslittle]

Id like to know if this is a common place thing to do.

DN is moving in with MIL for the next month or so while his new brother/sister is born. The baby is due in 3 weeks time.

Im but perhaps this is normal.

[cheesesarnie]

i think thats a really bad idea!how old is dn?

[OldLadyKnowsNothing]

My DSis and I were sent away to our grandmother's for about a month when our DB was being born, so it's not a one-off.

[MrsVidic]

I think it depends on age of dn- my dd, 2 will be carrying on as much as normal when this dc is born. Each to his own

[elisadoeslittle]

Hes 18mo. I feel really sorry for him. When my brother was born I was sent away for just 3 days and my mum tells me I was so distraught I stopped walking. I was 2 and a half.

[GeneralDreedlesNurse]

Maybe it's `normal' for them? I can see why someone would do this, but also why they wouldn't - depends on age of your DN. My DS was 11 (almost 12) when i had his little sis, he was away on holiday with his dad (my exH) and came back the day after she was born for a couple of days to see her and then went off again.

Surely whatever works for their family has got to be agood thing. It may not be the thing we'd do but that only makes it different not (necessarily) wrong.

[thereisalightanditnevergoesout]

My mum was sent away to live with an aunt (her brother and sister weren't though ) when her youngest sister was born - but that was about 50 years ago.

I can't say I've heard many people opting for this in recent years.

[lorelilee]

Sorry, but this fills me with horror. The poor wee mite will think that her parents are not interested in her now that they have a new baby. I really think it will cause her major issues. This is not based on any evidence, just my inherent fear of being thought of as less than special.

[bubblesincoffee]

I think it would be an awful thing to do, but understandable if there are likely to be other issues surrounding the birth - of which there could be many.

[upahill]

What a horrible (IMO) idea!
The little one should be part of the family ready to greet the new member of the family I think.

[diddl]

Blimey-sounds really old fashioned to me!

Why is he going so soon?

What if baby is late?

My sister is in her 50s & dad reluctantly left her with his MIL for a couple of days as both mum & I were ill in hospital & if he wasn´t at work, he was at the hospital.

[FuzzpigFourFiveSix]

That's really sad, he could get really distressed. But each to their own. Is there a health problem with baby or mother that maybe means they need more space?

DD was 2.2 when DS was born and the day he was born was the first time I was away from her for a whole day. Haven't done it since, she's 4.1

[stillstanding]

Not the way I roll tbh but there could be good reasons for this ...

[EuphemiaMcGonagall]

My dad and I stayed with my grannie for a couple of weeks when DB was born, but mainly because he was very poorly and in an incubator. I think my dad wanted me to have the routine of school, and to be able to spend time at the hospital without worrying about my mealtimes, etc.

Got spoiled rotten by Grannie.

[valiumredhead]

Well sometimes this situation happens because mum has to stay in hospital longer than normal/dad can;t get time off work etc. If handled sensibly I am sure it'll be fine.

[revolutionscoop]

Is there a reasoning/explanation being given for this?

[diddl]

I´m not sure if it´s "normal", but if there´s noone nearby & if MIL isn´t willing to go to them, and depending on distance, I can see how it has come about tbh.

[Mixitnow]

For a month or so? This is way too long IMO especially at that age! My ds's 16 and 8 spent three weeks at my mums when their new brother was born but this was because I spent three weeks in hospital, by the end even the 16 year old couldn't wait to come home! Who knows what such a young child will think to being apart from it's parents for that long! can understand a few days maybe but a month or so is too much

[vividgingerchilli]

I think it'd be better for the MIL to stay with the family instead.

[superjobee]

not something that will happen in my household i feel really sorry for your DN :(

[FuzzpigFourFiveSix]

Wow - just reread op and saw it's about a month. I'd misread it as a week before - a month, wow. :(

[diddl]

A month does seem a long time, doesn´t ?

I missed my PFB when I went into hospital to have my second.

I went in at 1 in the afternoon & PFB came in the next morning-that was long enough!

[griphook]

my dad was sent away when his sister was born, can babck with a stutter. the stutter went away a few months after he went home. tis very sad

[alowVera]

IMO I feel that this is a surefire way to make DN feel replaced.

[squeakytoy]

They know their own child best. Perhaps the mum is worried about her health and being able to cope, but whatever the reasons, it really is her business.