I am getting a bit wound up by my sil's fb statuses at the minute! She has a 15 mo and a 3mo and seems to spend a lot of time bragging on fb about how good a mum she is. Neither baby was planned and she is very young (21) so maybe she feels a bit defensive and as if she needs to prove that she can do it. Credit to her, I think she is doing great, but her constant status updates about how both her dds sleep through the night and always have etc etc is starting to grate - especially as I have a 6 mo ds who still up 1/2 times a night! I know it's not a competition but I feel that my pils especially are comparing us as parents all the time, and seem to think sleeping through is some kind of barometer of good parenting!
Yesterday they had been on a day out and she wrote about how well behaved her girls were. Well one of them is only 3 mo - how can a 3 mo be naughty? I don't really get this at all! Same as when people ask me if my my ds is "good"! what does this mean!? He is 6 mo and I think he is bloody fantastic but I don't really think this is what they are getting at!
AIBU?
To think a 3mo can't really be well behaved?
Moulesfrites · 25/07/2011 12:55
I understand your frustration at the comparison bit and I think you're right when you say she feels like she has to say it to prove that she is doing well at being a mum to 2 at a young age.
Though I have been known to post on Facebook that my DS3 is a naughty baby. He is only 8 months old and I don't really think of him as naughty but it is a light hearted way of saying he has kept me awake all night (regular non sleeping variety of baby even though I specifically ordered a 'good' one this time 
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YABU, I have a 5 month old and she doesn't sleep through the night [shrugs, just one of those things]. As someone else said, don't read her status, I don't use Facebook for this exact reason and I live in fear of being contacted by anyone I went to school with 
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People say "good" about my three all the time, they are "good" in public, its home where they're a bloody nightmare.
my DD was an easy baby, is an easy child and im bloody proud of it!! if i had facebook i'd be telling the world let the woman enjoy her calm contented kiddies cos as i remind myself - just wait till their teens!! bet my DD will be a hell raiser when she's older ... she's been too good for 6 and a half yrs..
I see what you mean, but I would really just ignore it. I'd wonder if she was over-compensating a bit too, maybe desperately feels she has to present a view to the world of her coping perfectly and wonderfully happy all the time, to justify her choice to have children relatively young (though 21 is not that young, it's not as though she's 14! Surely people don't judge you for having children in your 20s?).
Either way it's not hurting you! Just do a 
face when you see the updates and then ignore.
My ds3 has always been told by everyone what a good/clever/special little boy he is and as a result hes now almost 11 and no-one ever says a detrimental word about him.
Despite that he slept 3 hours out of 24 for 3 years had very bad allergies and stunk to high heaven when he was sick or pooped,he was (in my opinion as a mum of 2 older dc and nursery nurse) quite a grumpy baby......but as soon as he was born it was almost decided he was 'the special one'......ds2 however is the 'naughty one' and boy does he live upto it ......ds1 is and always has been the 'clever one' - be very careful about labelling your dc .
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