DD (9) has a friend from nursery who is now at a different school. DD was fretting on Saturday about how she hadn't seen her for ages and she told me this morning that DH said she maybe shouldn't see her because she is:
Bad-mannered, never says please or thank-you; Arrogant; A spoiled brat.
These things happen to be true, but was DH reasonable to say them to DD?
I think he's projecting: he's been having a crap time at work for about a year, has no respect for his employers and tars anyone he takes a dislike to with the same brush.
That was part of my worry, that as soon as they have a fall-out she will list all the things her dad has said! We hardly see these people, so I don't much care about it getting back to the parents.
I just don't want things to be difficult for DD - she has asked my advice about "friends" before and I've been honest if I've thought the person was bad for her, but for DH to pile on that on her unprompted was a bit much, in my opinion. Just because he dislikes a girl DD now sees half a dozen times a year, did it really warrant that?
Eeek! I think it's sort of fair enough for your DH to be honest with you DD about what he thinks of this girl . . . to a certain extent. Maybe he could have put it a bit more diplomatically?
When I was a few years older then that my dad called my best friend a slapper. I told her (god knows why!) and she told her mum. Her mum was SOOOO angry. Thought she was going to go round and punch my dad. Never did though.
Dd has a lot of trouble with a friend whose dad apparently a) does not believe dd is disabled but thinks it's just attention seeking b) says he would rather not have her round/invite her to his dd's parties because of it being awkward.
Dd's friend relays all these comments to dd who suffers from anxiety and depression. Charming.
Obviously, this is partly a problem with dd's friend who cannot keep her little mouth shut. But I can't help thinking it is also a problem with the dad: he must know by now that his dd is a blabber.
cory, I think I'd have to have this out with the dad. Let him know that you know what he's been saying about your child.
OP, if your DD's friend has been badly behaved in your house or unkind to your child, then it is fair enough not to invite her over again and to tell your DD why. If, otoh, your DH just doesn't like her, then he ought to keep that to himself, so long as she is behaving well towards your own DD.