Posted a while ago regarding partner never letting me visit his house. On the odd occasion that he allowed me to go he had to have tons of notice and then would make up every excuse possible to try and get out of it. An example being that if I left my shopping there by accident I'd send him a text saying "I'll pop around in half hour and pick it up" and he'll text back saying "No no, I'll bring it to you" so I'd reply "but I'm literally going right past your house in half an hour anyway, I might as well stop by" and he'd still try and insist on bringing it to me.
Anyway last time I posted, the general opinion was that he was living with another woman. I found this not to be the case after turning up and practically forcing my way into his house and making a bit of a twat of myself
So I was happy that he was just generally untidy and was embarassed by the mess in the house.
Some of you wasn't happy with that explanation.
Well it's come back, the whole issue. Yesterday I asked him if he could look at my laptop for me. He said yes so I said "when shall I bring it down?" and he said "its ok, I'll pick it up on the way back from work" This goes right out of his way but whatever, couldn't be arsed to argue, assumed he was genuinly trying to save me the drive. So he took it and I said I'd pick it up from his house tomorow (today). He agreed. But before he left he said "actually, will you be up about 5.45am?" on a sunday? err no. So he said "Its just that I could have dropped it off on the way to work". So I knew a string of excuses was coming again and I've just had enough, normal couples don't act like this. So I said "no, I won't be up, I'll pick it up from your house tomorow afternoon, I'm up that way tomorow anyway."
He reluctantly agreed.
Then last night I got a text saying "Shall I drop the laptop off on the way home tomorow, save you a drive?" so I said "No, Im picking it up." No reply.
Then at 8.15am this morning he sent me a text saying "are you up?" and I just know he was going to bring the bloody thing back so I text back and said "yes but I'm out."
so - 10am guess who turns up at the door with the laptop, all smiles saying "here, I saved you a job".
So I snapped and said "what is it with you trying to keep me away from your house?? what is going on??" so he said "oh not this again" but I'm right, it IS bloody wierd behaviour isn't it!? So I said "its not normal, you go out of your way to make sure I don't darken your doorstep, why??" so he tried to make out that he's just trying to be helpful and gets it thrown back in his face etc.
It needed bringing out in the open didn't it? or was I too confrontational over it??
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Was I overly confrontational? TBF you all warned me about this last time
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