DD is 5 and has just finished reception. She has been invited to the birthday party of a little girl in her class. This little girl has never been very nice to DD, though DD is desperate for her to like her and would do anything to please her. In the last few weeks there have been several incidents of this girl calling DD names and refusing to let her join in any games. It's all quite innocent "You're not my friend, you're not allowed in our 'club'" type thing, so not really bullying but still very hurtful for DD. On another occasion the girl went one step further and kicked DD, leaving a mark. I was happy with the way the school dealt with it, so felt no need to speak to the girl's mother or anything.
Despite all of this, the little girl is very popular with the other girls and DD is desperate to be in her little gang, and to be accepted and liked by her.
A few days ago I received a text message from this girl's mother inviting DD to her birthday party. I told her we might be busy that day and said I'd get back to her. DD knows nothing about the party, and with it being the school holidays now, she is unlikely to find out. If she did know about it, she would definitely want to go.
I don't want her to go, mainly because I'm worried she'll be left out and will get upset. So, would I be unreasonable to say we can't go as we're busy, and to not mention it to DD? Or am I completely wrong, and the party would be good for DD, make her feel accepted etc?
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muminthecity · 20/07/2011 20:09
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