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I though I was NBU, but now I'm confused :-S - children's tv characters

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LifeIsButtercream Wed 20-Jul-11 13:05:15

My DD is 2, we don't have the tv on very often, mainly because she hasnt been very interested in it, or we've been doing something elsewhere in the house, not cos I'm a 'no-TV' kinda mum. DD watches In The Night Garden before bed, likes it, asks for it and knows the characters and songs etc, she will watch other things on CBeebies, it's hit and miss really! She has some Disney Princess stuff, even though she's never seen a Disney Princess DVD, she has some other branded bits and pieces despite never having watched the show etc.

Went to a playgroup the other day, DD was wearing her Peppa Pig sandals (again, has never seen Peppa, I'm not even sure what channel its on!) another mum asked DD who was on her sandals, DD responded "A piggy!" the mum promted her that it was Peppa, and I (lightheartedly) said that she hasn't seen the show. The mum looked horrified and basically said that it was important that children knew all their characters or they won't be able to make friends with other kids when she is older as they'll have nothing in common etc etc etc. She even said that DD would get laughed at and left out.

I know at 2 this isn't such a problem, but it's made me worry that when she starts pre-school etc she might get picked on for not being 'brand savvy' when it comes to children's tv characters.

But seriously, how much tv am I going to half to make my DD watch to make sure she is 'accepted'? I thought I was NBU about DD not needing to watch tv and know the characters but now I'm not so sure....... confused

Empusa Wed 20-Jul-11 13:07:11

That other mum sounds like a loon!

Sounds like she might be a little too reliant on the stand in babysitter..

KRIKRI Wed 20-Jul-11 13:08:35

YANBU! There are plenty of children who watch little or no tv and are still able to socialise perfectly well with other children. There are more things to talk about than characters on tv.

BettySwollocksandaCrustyRack Wed 20-Jul-11 13:08:53

The other mum obv uses the tv as a babysitter.........maybe watching too much loonytoones!!!

Ignore her, your DD will not suffer for not knowing about peppa pig and such!

OveranxiousUnderated Wed 20-Jul-11 13:08:58

YANBU. What a silly woman. She is two years old!! My DD is nearly 1 and shows very little interest in the television, and I'm not going to encourage it in any way although I'm not going to ban her from watching it either.

And anyway, it was a piggy - she was right! grin

33goingon64 Wed 20-Jul-11 13:09:35

You ANBU. Stand by your (and your DD's) choice to let her get on with more interesting things than watching tv.

daimbardiva Wed 20-Jul-11 13:11:31

This is crazy - you just carry on going your own way. Jeez, if the other mum goes through life with this attitude, then I find it really sad. She's basically saying that it's more important to conform than be happy sad

SamsGoldilocks Wed 20-Jul-11 13:11:38

My dd had no idea about how or what most characters are - though she was delighted to be kissed by Peppa at a steam fair ages ago. She's one of the brightest sociable girls i know.

Maybe the mother you were talking needs to 'know' about these 'characters'/'celebs' to make her own friends!

Seeline Wed 20-Jul-11 13:12:01

You'll be amazed at ho much kids pick up before they start school and whilst at scholl. My DCs do watch a fair amount of TV blush but we only have freeview so don't know the full range of programmes. Similarly we rarely go to the cinema or watch DVDs but mine (now 7 and 9) seem fairly aware of a range of things that they certainly don't know from home eg Dr Who characters, the insand outso of X factor etc latest films and pop songs. Don't worry about your DD - carry one with the way you feel is right - teh other woman sounds a bit confused!

MMQC Wed 20-Jul-11 13:12:17

My children are 5 and 7, watch very little television and seem able to hold a reasonable conversation with their peers ... strangely enough!

cheesesarnie Wed 20-Jul-11 13:12:55

yanbu!!!your dd's right its a piggy!dont worry about it!she wont get bullied for not knowing tv characters,how daft!
mine do watch tv btw,just to balance it out.

Seeline Wed 20-Jul-11 13:13:00

apologies for spelling - kids must stop dropping crumbs on/in keyboard!!

Firawla Wed 20-Jul-11 13:13:35

yanbu, she's 2 years old, i think it is a little early for that mum to be worrying about being picked on due to this kind of thing. how weird! i would just laugh to yourself and ignore

DamselInDisarray Wed 20-Jul-11 13:16:02

I discovered this morning that my nearly 2 year old can name all the characters from in the night garden but he's never seen it. They must have some books at nursery or something.

AMumInScotland Wed 20-Jul-11 13:33:42

YANBU - the children at preschool are not going to be judging your daughter on her ability to recognise and name TV characters. I used to ask DS what he'd been doing at preschool and one of their main games was "Power Rangers" - he played this with the others quite happily, despite never having seen the show or had any merchandise from it.

PotterWatch Wed 20-Jul-11 13:49:22

What a load of crap!! (the other mum, not you [hsmile])

I won't let my 3.5 year old DS watch Ben 10 yet he comes home from nursery insisting that he likes it, despite the fact that he has never seen it.

I only let him watch Cbeebies (and his DVDs) , he likes these programmes and I know they are all 'safe' for young children so I see no need to introduce him to other crap that other children may watch just to keep up. My friends though are all gravitating away from Cbeebies and letting their children watch the other childrens channels, which I think are more for older children but I honestly think they do it so their children are 'moving on' from Cbeebies which they see as a bit young now. I don't give a flying fuck what other children watch or like. My DS likes the things he likes and thats it.

I know a 4 year old who watches Dr Who but I would rather my DS was 'left out' than watch that rubbish, which I don't think is suitable at all for young children.

macdoodle Wed 20-Jul-11 13:51:52

Hmmmm YABU just for posting.
This smacks very much of yet another, look how wonderful I am, my DC doesnt watch TV or know any characters, dressed up as a AIBU.

CogitoErgoSometimes Wed 20-Jul-11 15:16:31

I'm still scarred for life mentally after having the piss taken out of me age 6 because we didn't watch TOTP & I didn't know what song was #1 in the charts. <twitchy eyelid swigs pills but I'll be OK in a minute emoticon> I'd hoped things had moved on from there but if not knowing your Iggle Piggle from your Rastamouse gets you a beating it's obviously still pretty tough out in Kidworld

FuzzpigFourFiveSix Wed 20-Jul-11 15:30:11

YANBU, too much importance is placed on brands and characters. 4yo DD knows most characters - we don't have normal tv (disconnected it, just have DVDs now) and those she doesn't watch she's picked up the names at nursery anyway. It's unavoidable by that age, and I'm not bothered, I just mostly try to stick with generic toys as they are much more versatile anyway. I've introduced her to more vintage characters too - she likes Top Cat, Dangermouse and various others.

As if a 2yo is going to get left out of a clique because she doesn't know Peppa FFS! hmm Children are so adaptable, she would still fit in and pick up whatever was necessary to join in the game.

FuzzpigFourFiveSix Wed 20-Jul-11 15:31:36

When they are tiny it's all about the parents' choices anyway. I keep seeing new babies in buggies with ITNG accessories - who's that for, I don't think the baby chose it wink

FlubbaBubba Wed 20-Jul-11 15:45:41

My DD2 (2.5yrs old) was given a Hello Kitty handmedown from her cousin, and someone said "ooh, who's that on your T-shirt?" and she said it was "hello pussy cat" which has been what it has now become known in our family smile

Your DD will pick up on the characters' names from others at school soon enough, and will therefore avoid being ostracised by her peers. If not, I'm sure there'll be a 'Children's TV Characters for Dummies' book or Crib Notes on Kiddies' TV in your local Waterstones wink

DeWe Wed 20-Jul-11 16:27:55

We don't have a TV. Didn't stop dd1 putting her hand up at school one time when they asked who'd watched TV the night before. Me and the TA were laughing in the corner. grin
According to dd2 (aged then 5yo) Ben 10 is what boys have on their underpants.

ramade Wed 20-Jul-11 16:42:38

That woman sounds nuts. Don't worry about brand savvy and being accepted. All kinds of kids find their way at school. you can arrange play dates or take them to children centres to encourage them to play with other kids (to help them to lear to be social) , but as for getting them to watch TV to help them fit it, nah.

Science is on your side anyway, the boffins have done all kinds of studies which say less TV is better for your kids, so your doing well! (wish I could say the same for myself and my kids!)

COCKadoodledooo Wed 20-Jul-11 18:33:31

YANBU! She's a either a bit unhinged or trying to justify the fact that her kids watch too much telly.

This bit The mum looked horrified and basically said that it was important that children knew all their characters or they won't be able to make friends with other kids when she is older as they'll have nothing in common etc etc etc. She even said that DD would get laughed at and left out. reminded me of a conversation that happened when I was a lot younger. Different subject, but similar outcome in the mind of the person telling me. My sister (2 years my senior) told me when I was 14 that I'd never get/keep a boyfriend because I couldn't put my bra on 'properly' hmm (I'm a do-it-up-at-the-front-and-twizzle kinda gal, always have been, oh, and not only did I manage to get a boyfriend, I've been married to him for 13 years...).

All it's worthy of is a hmm face and a wtf?!

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