sorry if this gets a bit long, will try to keep from ranting too much...
DD's first birthday coming up in a few weeks, planning a family day in the park for GPs, aunties, etc.
OH's dad and his wife live a long way from us, so we only see them every couple of months. Last time they visited, talk was very much that they would be down next for DD's birthday (we have taken a turn to see them in the meantime, not that it has any bearing on this) and they were pretty excited.
Now 'due to finances' they are saying that they can't make it and will be down a couple of weeks after.
All ok so far, totally understand that money is tight.
However. (this is where it gets long).
FIL's wife is very good friends with OH's ex, often stays with her when they come down this way etc. Again, all good. Ex got married last year, two weeks after DD born.
FIL & wife went to the wedding, came to see us the next day to meet DD. While they were here we saw wedding photos and OH noticed that FIL had made a gift for wedding present (he is a master craftsman, very talented, OH always been in awe of this). It was a beautiful and thoughtful gift.
After they left, OH was very withdrawn and upset, most unlike him. After some cajoling, he admitted he was devastated that they had given such a lovely gift to his ex as a wedding present and nothing for DD's birth. Apart from the moment DD was born, it is the only time I've ever seen him cry and I felt so awful for him. He didn't want to look like a child throwing his toys out of the pram and so kept quiet in front of them.
Fast forward to this year and it turns out that they are coming 2 weeks after DD's birthday so they can go to the first anniversary celebration of said wedding, and then come to see us the next day.
Now obviously I don't know how their finances work but aibu to be pissed off that they can afford to do this, but not to come for DD's birthday, especially in light of what happened last year?
Or should I forget the past and just accept that they are killing two birds with one stone?
OH doesn't even know they are coming 2 weeks later yet, I can imagine he'll be pretty upset.
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cupidsabsolutepsyche · 20/07/2011 12:41
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