RANT ALERT,
My BIL is the most obnoxious individual I have the displeasure of knowing. I seriously think the guy has some form of a behavioural problem. He HAS to be centre of attention. He's the loudest in the room, he constantly repeats a story he thinks is hilarious and belly laughs at it each time. His dw is due their first baby soon and already he is an expert on all things 'baby'. I heard from dh last night that they attended an antenatal class and he make a skit out of the teaching midwife. I told dh that BIL is a fool and I was in turn told that ''I was being a dry ass''. He thinks by making a holy show of someone that this is funny.
I think what bugs me is my two precious lovely babies share the same DNA as this ameoba. Plus the fact his family laugh at his antics just concretes to him that he can carry on like this.
AIBU?
I utterly dislike my BIL
Roomfor1more · 18/07/2011 18:00
It sounds like a personality clash to me, OP. Those are very trivial reasons for disliking him. You just don't like him and that's how you feel. I think you're unreasonable for picking on the 'skit', as long as he treats the midwife with respect, what does it matter if he takes the mickey behind her back? Blimey, the muppets on 'mock the week' make a career out of it. 
Please think about your pregnant sister in all this... your obvious dislike of your BIL is not nice for her to witness. It sounds as if the rest of the family like your BIL or tolerate him better than you do. You can still be polite and civil, for your sister's sake if nobody ese's.
Your comment on the DNA isn't nice. Would you mind if he said the same thing about you?
My SIL is similar.
We'll be having a nice visit to PILs, SIL comes round and everybody in the room is eclipsed by her, it's all about her and nobody else gets a word in from thereon in.
I don't think she's very good a reading situations (where it might perhaps be appropriate to sit down and STFU for two mins while someone else has a conversation instead of just listening to her) and she's definately been indulged/excused by the family because of her (chosen) circumstances and being the youngest.
Does my head right in, but I don't bother letting on that I can't be doing with her any more, I'm just polite and keep my distance.
You've got to box up your rage at the twat and chuck it somewhere dark or you'll do yourself an injury 
you've got to live with the family and it's not worth a fall out over something you can't change.
My bil is a self-appointed expert in whatever he is currently talking about. Like when he was adamant that the baby would arrive with a painless labour (because they'd done antinatal classes) and exactly on the due date (because they knew their dates)
Baby about 2 weeks late with 4 day labour Well done baby.
Other than the number of brothers yours sounds familiar. I roll my eyes and keep quiet.
'he was the ignored child out of the six and even now he's veying for attention???'
I always thought it was the opposite, that everyone hung on their every word/behaviour and they never grew up in peoples minds, so carry on with the 'LOOK! look at me' before they do a dance they've learnt in front of the whole family to be applauded and told how clever they are.
Really lovely in a smaller child, but not so endering in a mid 30s adult
Look, every family has a loud histrionic member who is hard to take in large doses.
But - is he unkind? malicious? spiteful? dishonest? If the answer to all of those is NO then I really thnk you need to lighten up just a wee bit.
Believe me, having a family member who actually has an unpleasant character trait is a whole lot more difficult than putting up with someone who is loud and braying. Don't you think? 
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Well - armed with this further info that he is indeed quite hurtful and scathing then you are not unreasonable to really dislike him - he sounds like a horrible person if he passes remarks 
I really did just mean that a "loud" person can be tolerated if that's their only fault - I have quite a few "loud" and opinionated friends but they are never mean or scathing and I wouldn't tolerate that either.
P.S. My folks used to say "pass remarkable" - I love hearing that phrase.
If he comments on your DCs talking and walking he is a stupid fool - anyone with any sense knows that babies and toddlers develop at very different rates. My DD didn't walk until 15 months but talked early whereas DS was the opposite. Now I want to slap his arse with a baseball bat
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