ARRRRRRRRRRGGGGGGGGGGGGHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH
I have posted reams about my brother before, some of you might remember. Brief outline for those of you who don't know about what a spectacular idiot he is... He is now 22. He dropped out of school/college basically because he is a lazy moron, he has never had a job for the same reason. He has had three serious girlfriends but has cheated on all of them in pretty poor fashion i.e arranging to meet girls from the internet for sex/trying to arrange for him and his girlfriend to have a threesome without her knowledge. He then (miraculously) got offered a place on a course at a music college in Brighton which he accepted. His dad (my ex-stepdad) funded the course for the first year and off he went. He has been sponging off mum/his dad ever since. He goes for weeks without ringing mum/answering his 'phone to her and only ever calls her when he needs bailing out with cash.
Cue today. He has been off to the Benicassim festival in Barcelona for a week. Got back today. Rang mum from London Victoria to say he was stranded in London as he had "lost" his train ticket (he has pulled this stunt before). My mum went into hysterics, thinking of her boy stuck in London on his own and she had a massive panic attack. I found this out because her counsellor rang me (she managed to get my number off mum) to say that mum was in a terrible state in her office and she could do with someone to be with her. I rushed about, got ready to go to her then got a call off my aunty to say that she was now with her and not to bother going over. My uncle had taken mum's car home as she was too upset to drive it.
I just called her to make sure she was OK and just about resisted the urge to tell her to get a grip. FFS, he has pulled this stunt so many times in the past. He reckons he bought his ticket before he went and has lost it. I reckon he did no such thing, thought he'd spend his cash on beer and mummy/daddy would get him out the shit when he returned. AIBU to want to punch my own brother squarely between the eyes? I expect I am but I am starting to hate him. I know that sounds harsh but a lot has gone on and it's been a slow build-up to this. I think I do actually hate him. He causes so much upset. When will he ever grow up?
AIBU?
Need to vent about my arsehole brother
CupcakesandTwunting · 18/07/2011 16:51
Honestly, I wouldn't feel sorry for my mum 
She makes the same mistake over and over by baling him out and expecting him to learn from it. I know he is her son and we do stuff out of love for our kids but I honestly can't imagine being that much of a doormat for DS when he is older. I could well be back on here in fourteen years complaining about him being a feckless little scrote but I really hope not!
I read your thread title as wanting to vent your brother's arsehole. A bloody good kick to that area might solve your problems, and convince my eyes that they don't need glasses after all.
Good luck! 
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"You need to tell your mum that you don't wish to hear about your brother - not his tales of woe or her anxieties about him."
Too true. I reached an agreement with my mum about two months ago that I did not want to hear any more about brother's BS. Mum grudgingly agreed. THEN she does things like 'phones me, does deep exhale when I ask how she is, so that I say "what's up?" then she'll say "Oh it's Brother Twunting, he's done...." I say "We said we wouldn't talk about this since you don't like my advice."
So far so good until I get a call from her bloody counsellor. How am I supposed to ignore a stranger ringing me saying "your mum is in hysterics/having a panic attack"? Honestly, I would like nothing better than to never hear another word on the little nutsack. It would do my blood pressure wonders.
Spuddy we live in the Midlands so no-one could pick him up/hand him cash. I think he was expecting to have cash wired to his account. 
"So it was a huge deal for poor ickle him to be 'stranded' in big, bad ol' London, but it was fine for him to spend a week abroad in Barcelona at a music festival?! Is there any way that you could (gently) point out the irony of this to your Mum?"
My mum's counsellor said that she had said this very thing to her. Her words were "he got to and from Barcelona. He will manage the thirty-five miles home to Brighton."
Nagini 
Thanks for making me smile therefore preventing me from grinding my teeth to fine dust for a second!
Well, I did (gently) suggest to her last week that I suspected that she might thrive on the drama and guess what? She got all drama queen on my ass.
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I agree totally with everything you just posted, nokissymum. I do want to make a break and not be involved in this bollocks, I hate it. I have a nice, quiet life with little to no drama, because I choose to surround myself with people who don't thrive on drama, so I do feel a bit when it infiltrates my life this way. It's almost like me saying "not interested, tell someone else" isn't enough so my attention is got another way. Like today.
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