Was out for the day with a friend and her DD (6) and my two DDs (3 and 5). There was nothing too taxing - a trip to a park and shortish walk. Ayway on the way home her DD asked to be carried, which she did. My older DD (who was running along happily until then) then asked me to carry her, and I said no - to be quite honest I don't think I could. She's quite tall and I'm quite small - I sometimes give her a piggy back but it's more for fun than anything. My friend looked surprised and said she often carried her DD when she said she was tired - it was obviously a huge struggle for her as she's also quite big for her age (and has no health issues). She implied I was a bit mean making my DD walk when she asked to be carried. It certainly wasn't a particularly arduous trip, and my 3 year old was managing fine. It isn't normal to carry a child of this age unless they have a problem, is it, or am I just mean (and wimpy)?
I wouldn't carry ds (he's only 3) unless there was some special reason. Most times if he says he's tired he can easily be distracted and then walks for ages....so obv.not that tired at all! If he was an only child I probably would carry him more but with a younger dc too it's not possible
No way. My DD is 4.5 and would be carried everywhere if you let her away with it. Had to put my foot down with the buggy when she turned 4, just got rid of the extension bit and told her it was just for her brother then, she still trys to sneak in anytime he gets out. As for carrying she doesn't even waste her breath asking me anymore although DH will do it occassionnally.
I'd carry dd from the sitting room next door to bed if she fell asleep on the couch watching telly thexfactor with me but that's about it!When does your friend intend to stop carrying her dd when she asks, because I'd bloody love to becarried around but I don't think my Mum would anymore...... !
Thanks all. We have very different styles of parenting and she commonly lets me know she considers my approach harsh. Sometimes I think maybe she has a point (although I do think sometimes she lets her DD get away with murder) but I was pretty sure I was the normal one here - her incredulity made me doubt myself though.
DS1 (6) asks to be carried sometimes - I think because he's a bit jealous of DS2 (nearly 2). If it's convenient then I will for a bit - not long, because he's heavy. But I definitely wouldn't do it once it became uncomfortable - or if I just didn't feel like it. It's just to be nice, or for a bit of fun, not a necessity.
My dd is 4.5 and after a long play at the park and when we're almost at the car/home, I do pick her up if she's tired. I don't find it too difficult, but then she isn't a bulky child plus I have good hips (lol). I do it out of fun and closeness and always put her down if it gets too much.
No YANBU, I find it difficult enough carrying my 21 month old! I just make her walk until her legs are falling off (she does walk quite a bit though bless her and is usually very tired to be asked to be picked up) But I certainly won't be carrying her when she is 5!