chicken pox - aibu

[preschoolly]

please be kind... I never post in this section. My daughter turned four yesterday and in the evening I noticed that she had spots... this morning it is obviously Chicken Pox. So of course I have quarantined her, kept her off preschool - which she is currently devastated about as it was her day to take in a birthday cake and it's the end of term party and everything. She's currently bouncy and happy but I know that will get worse. We're of course not planning to take her anywhere public while she is poxy. We;ve bought piriton etc and she's at home with her Dad playing with her birthday pressies.

But. Her birthday party is on Saturday and she is so looking forward to it. AIBU to have the party anyway and tell all of the parents she's poorly and let them make up their own minds? I spoke to most preschool parents this am, and most said..."that's fine, XX has had it anyway so he or she will be coming" and some said they wouldn't bring younger siblings - which is v sensible in my opinion. She may be fine by Sat, of course, and may be really poorly, in which case we'll cancel when we have more of an idea. I've texted all the other parents so they know.

Is it ok to not cancel now? She will be devastated not to have it and may be feeling fine, and most parents don't seem to mind. Is this reasonable? I've no way of knowing yet how ill she will be. Terrible, terrible timing. As I say, be kind, I'm at a loss!

[LeMousquetaireAnonyme]

YANBU. You have warned everybody, they can make their mind up, and you are planning to let your DD state dictate the day, I don't think you can be more reasonable than that .
My brother was barely ill may be 3 days a most, DD1 and me, were very sick and it lasted months. So you never know.

[going]

As long as it's at home then it's fine if the parents have been warned and want to bring their children.

[SpecialFriedRice]

YANBU

You've told the parents, so its in their hands now. Hope your DD has a fab birthday though. :)

[Pseudo341]

So long as everyone attending knows the score then I'd say you're fine to go ahead and let people make up their own minds. Remember not all adults will necessarily have had it either so it's not just people with children you need to inform, people born outside the UK are more likely to be vunerable. Even if you think you're immune it is possible to catch it more than once, even as an adult (a friend of mine nearly ended up in hospital). It can also be a big problem in early stages of pregnancy, as I found out in a massive panic at 20 weeks when I was exposed with no record of having had it. So long as you're shouting it from the roof tops I'd say it's up to the indiviudals attending, but bear in mind it's not always as harmless as people tend to think so please don't be blase about it.

[preschoolly]

I am of course, informing all adults attending as well - those I know are pregnant, and those I don't! I wouldn't for a moment be blase about effects - have a friend whose Mum had it while she was pregnant with her - quite severe effects to this day.