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to think that parents of pre-schoolers should know

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activate Sun 17-Jul-11 22:01:21

that children of the following age are still children


yes they are huge in comparison to your little ones - they look like adults but they are children - they are not going to hurt you - the are probably more frightened of you than you are of them - please don't treat them like the enemy.


idyllic years - pre-teenage angst, post childish tantrums - make the most of them. Some 11 year olds can look like 16 year olds by the way.


big compared to your 2 year old - but oh so little in the world - they have little impulse control

I am sure I felt that the big hulking brutes should know better when DS1 and 2 were under 5 - but by the time DS3 and DD came along I realised I was wrong - so, so wrong

I am making attempts to have the longest post in the world by the way grin

ninah Sun 17-Jul-11 22:03:06

idyllic? someone should tell ds

TeamEdward Sun 17-Jul-11 22:03:14

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onepieceofcremeegg Sun 17-Jul-11 22:03:25

Some of the big children (14 ish) are really lovely to the little ones at the local park. They all share some of the same equipment, some of it is multi-age like zip wire. They lift the little ones on and give them extra turns. More than once I have intervened to tell the teenagers they can have a go as well. smile

My "baby" is now 7 but she is still little.

AgentZigzag Sun 17-Jul-11 22:04:15

Can I be there when you tell a 17 YO that they're still a child? grin

activate Sun 17-Jul-11 22:04:56

I tell my 17 year old all the time that he'll always be my baby

he was the model for this face [roll]

MedusaIsHavingABadHairDay Sun 17-Jul-11 22:05:02

applauds grin
And even 18 and 19 year olds are still children.. standing on the scary edge of adult expectations, even if they can vote and drive...

GypsyMoth Sun 17-Jul-11 22:05:07

theres some truth in there Activate....especially the teens bit!

activate Sun 17-Jul-11 22:06:17

this face hmm

Tchootnika Sun 17-Jul-11 22:07:08

What a strange post, OP.
What's the story behind it?
(And I must admit, I struggle to think of 17yo.s as 'children'. Big kids, sometimes, sure, but much as I cringe at the term 'young people', I kind of find it more appropriate.)
What's the story, though?

Claw3 Sun 17-Jul-11 22:10:35

I have a 17 year old, its hard to think of him as a child, he shaves!

GypsyMoth Sun 17-Jul-11 22:25:04

my 17 year old has just done a full days work on the till at the NEXT sale! she's no child,but she did have to have a lift in as she cant drive!

Greythorne Sun 17-Jul-11 22:27:34

I wasn't a child at 18.
I had passed my driving test, got a job, moved to a foreign country, had my own bank account, no longer relied on parents financially. I did not feel like a child then nor do I now believe I was a child.

SheCutOffTheirTails Sun 17-Jul-11 22:28:33

Bollocks! Teenagers are not children, they are adolescents.

And FFS 18 and 19 year olds are adults. Young adults, but still fully grown people.

I agree that they are not scary, and not the enemy. I think teenagers are ace.

But they are not children, and I won't treat them as though they are.

somersetmum Sun 17-Jul-11 22:30:17

Totally agree - and they should also know that their pre-schoolers will be big hulking brutes in the blink of an eye - oops, sorry about the cliche - been watching too much Apprentice with my gorgeous, strapping, (but very much still a child) teenage ds smile

Mollymax Sun 17-Jul-11 22:31:32

I totally understand what you mean.
I stopped going to our local toddler group when a PFB mum shouted at my 3 year old dd for "strangling" her child.
She was only giving him a hug.

BelleDameSansMerci Sun 17-Jul-11 22:33:02

What makes you think we don't know that?

SheCutOffTheirTails Sun 17-Jul-11 22:35:27

But at a certain point 3 year olds do get beyond toddler groups, since they are not toddlers (any more than teenagers are children).

worraliberty Sun 17-Jul-11 22:35:45

Bit strange to think of a child legally getting married and having children of their own though!

Oh and I don't think I know any 17yr olds who are scared of me...though I live in hope of meeting one grin

TheSecondComing Sun 17-Jul-11 23:25:50

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startail Sun 17-Jul-11 23:44:32

The op is quite right. However, grown up they look young people still sometimes need a bit of slack, a bit of understanding, whether they are 10 and 13 like my DC or 18 year old students. They will be doing things for the first time and sometimes the world will look a big and frightening place.

MsPlaced Mon 18-Jul-11 00:15:58

your 17 year old might be your baby, but he's not really a child. Doesn't mean I don't agree with the essence of your sentiments though.

SheCutOffTheirTails Mon 18-Jul-11 00:25:20

Of course young people need a bit of understanding and patience and a lot of slack.

But that doesn't make them children.

TheSecond I don't think the general corpus of toddler group parents is averse to 3 year olds showing up. I just find it a total pita bringing one.

A child who gets mortally offended if another child snatches something off them, and thinks she has suffered a grievous insult if another child doesn't wait their turn, should not be around 2 year olds.

God gave us nursery school so that 3 year olds can be rigid little buggers together where nobody else has to suffer them.

(I love her really smile )

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