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To not want to invite my Dad's Girlfriend's Ex Husband to My Wedding?

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LetThereBeCupcakes Fri 15-Jul-11 15:43:10

Because my father thinks I am. I tried to be tactful and tell him we needed to keep numbers down. He offered to "buy him a place".
It's our wedding. We're paying. And it's just weird...

squeakytoy Fri 15-Jul-11 15:44:51

Why the frig would he be invited??? that is weird, unless he is a friend of yours.

TheBigJessie Fri 15-Jul-11 15:45:16

What's the back-story? There's gotta be some. It seems like such a random request on its own!

wildfig Fri 15-Jul-11 15:46:34

Why would he even want to come? confused

ENormaSnob Fri 15-Jul-11 15:47:46

Very odd


WhoAteMySnickers Fri 15-Jul-11 15:50:11

Unless your dad's girlfriend's ex husband is your dad's brother, father or son, then YANBU. And even if he is, it's your wedding so still YANBU.

LetThereBeCupcakes Fri 15-Jul-11 15:55:18

TheBigJessie - my father and I aren't particularly close, so not entirely sure. I wonder if Dad's Girlfriend feels guilty for leaving him (about 30 years ago) and seems to look after him. He showed up uninvited to my fiance's birthday party last summer, but we've not seen him since.
This is one of the reasons I don't want him there - there will be so many "who is he?" and then the inevitable awkward silence when I explain...
WhoAteMySnickers - no, no relation.
<considers eloping>

dickiedavisthunderthighs Fri 15-Jul-11 15:56:09

They're all having sex.

2shoes Fri 15-Jul-11 15:56:24


WhereYouLeftIt Fri 15-Jul-11 16:00:22

He's been her ex for thirty years??

Deeply odd. YANBU.

squeakytoy Fri 15-Jul-11 16:00:45

So she left this man 30 years ago.. and he still turns up on the scene uninvited at strangers functions.... thats just freaky and weird..

LetThereBeCupcakes Fri 15-Jul-11 16:02:31

It is so freaky and weird.
And dickiedavisthunderthighs - thank you so much for that image shock

pigletmania Fri 15-Jul-11 16:05:53

No don't invite him, means nothing to you. Tell your dad a firm NO. Why the he'll should a stranger who has no family connections come

IvyAndGold Fri 15-Jul-11 16:18:06

Oh god, no! Tell your dad no way! Sounds like he might just turn up anyway though confused How very bizarre!

JanMorrow Fri 15-Jul-11 16:19:58

Errr no! But don't be surprised if he just turns up!!

TheOriginalFAB Fri 15-Jul-11 16:20:14

If your dad is that desperate for this bloke to come then tell your dad he can have his place...

Bloodymary Fri 15-Jul-11 16:20:33

Do NOT invite him. (does he not have his own life/friends)?

create Fri 15-Jul-11 16:23:32

Why is it important to your Dad that he's there?

Although I agree, if youre doing all the paying/orgainising then it's your guest list, but I would have through his girlfriend's ex would be the last person he'd want there.

SnapesOnAPlane Fri 15-Jul-11 16:23:41

Ménage à trois?

SnapesOnAPlane Fri 15-Jul-11 16:24:29

wait, wait. You would be U if it was infact a ménage à trois, but not if it's just a stranger who you have no relation to

Thingumy Fri 15-Jul-11 16:28:40


Mind you my father's partner of 30 years is always off galavanting with her ex husband and his wife.I find it odd seeing as she divorced him for being a abusive twonk.

Your wedding your call OP.

LetThereBeCupcakes Fri 15-Jul-11 16:29:05

I don't want to know if it's ménage à trois, I really don't.
I have no idea why it's important for my Dad, although I'm wondering if it's important to his girlfriend and he's asking on her behalf. I have no idea. These are the sorts of questions that I'm just too scared to ask <coward>

AmaraDresden Fri 15-Jul-11 16:29:36

YANBU - I wouldn't invite my father if we ever got married because I don't like him shrug your wedding, your choice.

AmaraDresden Fri 15-Jul-11 16:29:36

YANBU - I wouldn't invite my father if we ever got married because I don't like him shrug your wedding, your choice.

Thingumy Fri 15-Jul-11 16:30:26

Don't ask questions just say NO.

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