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To think my friend is BU.

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MugglesandLuna Thu 14-Jul-11 18:13:08

I have found a great deal for a last minute break to Spain next week for me and 5 friends. We are a group who go away on 'girls holidays' quite often (last time for a weekend to Benidorm in May).

I am a single parent and I have a 4 year old boy who can be a bit of a handful so I really need a break from him. I have asked a friend if she can look after him for the 4 days that I am away. She does have her plateful with three children of her own, 2 of who have SN. Plus her boys are at a different school to my DS so I agree it might be a bit difficult.

But she has said no. I really need a break and I thought that as she was a good friend she would help me out. I have told her I think she is being a bit of a bad friend. I dont know if she is jealous because we didnt ask her to come, but she is a bit of a home body and wouldnt want to come anyway.

EndaHoran Thu 14-Jul-11 18:14:30



Of course you are.

MrsMellowDrummer Thu 14-Jul-11 18:14:55

Um, so unreasonable I question your sanity.

catgirl1976 Thu 14-Jul-11 18:15:40

YAB so U that I htink this must be a joke?

peggotty Thu 14-Jul-11 18:15:51

Is this one of these 'reversed threads'?

BitsyVonMuffling Thu 14-Jul-11 18:15:55

You agree it 'might be a bit difficult' for her? hmm

Beachedbabe Thu 14-Jul-11 18:15:56

This must be AIBU in reverse and you are the one who has been asked?

squeakytoy Thu 14-Jul-11 18:15:57

Are you really the "friend" smile

DogsBestFriend Thu 14-Jul-11 18:16:04


I'd dump her, what sort of a friend is that!


Nanny0gg Thu 14-Jul-11 18:16:32

This is a wind-up, right?

Have some schools broken up already?

SortingHardHat Thu 14-Jul-11 18:16:53

Whats going on in here tonight???

FetchezLaVache Thu 14-Jul-11 18:17:05

This has got to be a reverse AIBU, right?? In which case, of course you weren't BU.

ENormaSnob Thu 14-Jul-11 18:17:12

Is this one of those backward aibu?

Either that or you are nuts.

MugglesandLuna Thu 14-Jul-11 18:17:25

Yes I am the friend being asked.

I wanted to make sure I am doing the right thing saying no. When I explained my objections she said I was being awkward hmm.

FetchezLaVache Thu 14-Jul-11 18:18:03

Dammit- I'm such a slow typer it looks like I was only the third person to come up with the "reverse" theory, when in fact I thought of it before either peggoty or beachedbabe!

sssj72 Thu 14-Jul-11 18:18:10

Are you for real !! hmm

allhailtheaubergine Thu 14-Jul-11 18:18:10

For the first time on Mumsnet I need a rolling with laughter emoticon.

AtYourCervix Thu 14-Jul-11 18:18:21

really? shock and hmm

ashamedandconfused Thu 14-Jul-11 18:18:39

YABVU, unless you regularly take her 3 off her hands,in which case i might be a bit more sympathetic, but its still a huge ask, especially with different schools

can ANYONE be so selfish as to think this would be OK??

AtYourCervix Thu 14-Jul-11 18:18:46

No, No and keep repeating.

squeakytoy Thu 14-Jul-11 18:19:15

I would tell her that maybe if she curtailed her gallivanting and spent more time with her kid, he might not be so much of a handful. smile

ashamedandconfused Thu 14-Jul-11 18:20:11

thank goodness you are the friend - she's got a real nerve, I'll say that for her!

MugglesandLuna Thu 14-Jul-11 18:20:28

I am a bit of a pushover normally, so I can sort of understand why she asked. But she has been a bit hostile since I said no. She cancelled coffee with me tomorrow because ' She doesnt want to be any more disappointed than she already is'.

MugglesandLuna Thu 14-Jul-11 18:21:04

She is a bit of a drama queen.

Katisha Thu 14-Jul-11 18:21:47

She is a user. DOn't cave in.

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