DS1 has been invited to a piss up birthday party. He's 11. The birthday boy will be 11 on the day. The problem is that DS has grown up with this boy and does like him, however the lad has been slowly drifting off the rails for the past 2 years and now the little blonde haired, blue eyed boy we once knew and loved is a shaven headed little hooligan who spends his time climbing on shop roofs, throwing stones at people/cars passing by, spitting, swearing, picking tab ends up off the floor and lighting them up and drinking alcohol. I'm not wanting to make my DS out to be an angel but he's nothing like this lad now, he's not even allowed to "lark out" on the streets etc. They're just so different now I kind of want to break contact but DS still wants to be friends. The thing is, last year this -piss up-- party happened and ended with all the adults drunk, the kids out on the streets causing trouble and DS sat on the toilet locked in the bathroom texting me to come and pick him up!!
The house is an absolute tip, I mean I'm not houseproud but the house really is bad with a huge German Shepherd bouncing around, ash-trays everywhere, food/general grime and dirt all over the sofa/walls etc. The garden is a health hazard covered in dog shit and broken glass and the area itself (where the lads eventually drift out when they've had enough of the party) is also dodgy.
This is the last time DS will probably see the boy though as they start secondary school next year but AIBU in just wanting to break all contact now? I just can't be arsed with it to be honest. After I'd picked DS up from the last party to birthday boy ended up with a caution from the police for vandalising and swearing at a police officer and the social services got involved because the lad had been drinking. He was only 10 at the time!!
I feel for the kid but at the same time, I don't want my lad involved. AIBU?
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HoleySocks · 14/07/2011 14:36
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