YANBU. Sex stereotyping is crap. I have a boy (who is 3.5) and if he behaved like that it would be because he was being a stinker that day, not because he's a boy! And I don't see what business it is of anyone's if you buy sturdy jeans for your DD. <joins OP in rant>
A number of my friend have boys, and they have said that around the age of 3 or 4 boys do get a massive testosterone surge, which makes them more aggressive. I have no idea whether this is true, just sayin'.
Hands you a copy of Delusions of Gender YANBU. Sex stereotyping hurts children both ways. Would this mother punish a girl MORE for the same behaviour as a boy, fur the reason that girls are "supposed" to be inherently sweet-natured and gentle?
YANBU I have 2 boys and I wouldn't sit there and let them act like that at all. My old next door neighbour used to let her DS1 spit at my boys, throw rubbish over the fence and even piss through the fence into my garden. But it was ok because he was a boy.
I heard about the massive testosterone surge but my son was too busy doing Lego for hours on end and drawing. He's a jolly, sensitive little 5 year old, described in is recent report as 'quiet, compassionate and concientious'. Must be gay.
it is true that around the age of four boys get a testosterone surge which can affect their behaviour, doesnt mean you let them get away with it tho!
i have FOUR boys and mine have all had their moments as ALL children do, but i dam well pull them up on it, my ds4 is 3 and will occasionally snatch etc he is firmly reprimanded and will give the toy back, say sorry and if he does it again and we are at toddlers he will have to sit at the side and not play for a few mins, or like last week when he was tantrum king (overtired i think..who knows...) i warned him and when he didnt listen i told him if it continued we would go home, he threw another tantrum so we went home!!!
btw i also have a 7mth old dd, who tho she has lots of pretty dresses etc is currently wearing a pair of dungarees that ALL four of my boys have worn before her and a blue hoody..she does have a long sleeved 'girly' coloured vest on underneath...whatever!
Maybe I should read that book. I have to admit my son is a handful compared to my DC1 - a girl, who was a piece of cake. He is exhausting and does all the things in the OP Time outs seem to be the order of the day right now here
4yr old boys losing hearing <ears prick up> my son is a demon atm and apparently cant hear a word i say. i'm going to google.
YANBU because even though boys that age do go all testeroney and a bit wild ime the last thing i'd do is say 'oh, its just how they are' as i seem to hear lots of 'oh its just how men are' too and it's bullshit. and as for the girls should be playing with dolls comment, what a weirdo! if she wants to turn a blind eye to naughtiness she's not going to be very popular and she's going to have trouble convincing the boy it's not his birthright to do what he likes.
but, i also think some mums of girls are a bit horrified and OTT about young boys. yes its unacceptable and needs addressing, but doesnt mean they aren't lovely boys and are tiny thugs in the making.
Stranded-You can't tell they are boy jeans though can you? I don't really buy this all girls clothes are pink and covered in glittery shit.There are sections for those kinds of clothes in various stores,but I've always found plain clothes for either sex.
This CHILD is badly behaved and that is it. He should be told off whether a boy or girl.
I also hate it when boys are described as 'boisterous' as if girls don't display similar behaviour.
The testosterone argument is an interesting one. I wonder what others think of this as women will use the hormonal argument for 'being a bit menstrual' and having PMT. Not sure whether we can accept one without the other.
I was always taught that hormones may play a part in how we feel however it is whether we CHOOSE to act on these feelings that is important!!! (runs away and hides!!!!)