First of all I want to say that I am 8.5 months pregnant so I get emotional very easily these days. However, in this case I feel like I am the sane one and DH is being a complete idiot.
We live in a part of Spain which is very hot (inland, not the coast). We don't have air conditioning, so I have to sleep with the windows open. Lately the neighbours to our left have been having dinner parties in their garden, on weeknights (three times this week) which often go on (with loud drunken laughter) until 1.30 or later. I wanted to go over to say something but DH (who is Spanish) says it is their garden and they are perfectly entitled to make as much noise as they like. He was so against me going that rather than have a fight with him about it I didn't go.
Then, the other night I heard a loud croaking sound coming from the back garden of the neighbours to our right, so loud that I had to sleep in the baby's new room at the front of our house. I thought it was a bird, but DH said it was frogs, which I thought strange because there are no ponds or anything around here. Over the last few days we have wondered about it and have both found it to be extremely irritating. DH even changed his status on fb to say how he couldn't work with the noise of the frogs. So imagine my surprise yesterday when talking to the neighbour, it turns out that he actually brought the frogs to his garden from his village for his sons to play with and because he likes the noise. Then the neighbour asked DH if it bothered him, and he said, 'no, no, I like the noise too.' I know I should have said something but I was literally struck dumb with astonishment and just went into the house.
Afterwards when I confronted DH about what he had said, he insisted that he did like the noise (does he think I am a complete idiot?) and again that this neighbour was completely within his rights to have those frogs there and actually told me to lower my voice in case the neighbours heard. He refused to discuss it further and told me to get a grip and that if I complained to the neighbours it meant I had 'no shame'. He also said that when the baby comes, we will be the ones bothering the neighbours.
I ran upstairs crying and haven't spoken to him since. I feel like shit now and don't know what to do.
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RingEir · 12/07/2011 07:16
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