MS Understood
You may be married but separated or widowed. You may be separated and living with the man you left your husband for. You may be long divorced but choose to use your married name and title. You may be waiting for a divorce, legally still married, choosing to drop the married name and title. You may be over 40 and never been married! You may have several children and be single, or happily married but use your single name for professional reasons, you may be in a civil partnership, you may be recently widowed or divorced. Do you know which title to use? Are you Miss, Mrs. or Ms?
Why, in the UK can a man be a simple Mr. or Sir which doesn?t require qualifying any further, whilst a woman is asked to be a Miss (single/young), Mrs.(married) Madam(mature) or Ms(??)?. I for one don?t have a clue which applies to me, I put ?Ms, but don?t know what it means and have never heard it with my ears. It sounds a bit harsh when said out loud?.
As I reached my early thirties and owned my own home, tradesmen and service providers were calling me Mrs. ...... and I realised at my age I aught to be married, this was their assumption. Did I correct them with a sorry or evocative, Dick Emery, ?I?m a Miss?. Did they need to know?
When I fell pregnant and had a baby without marrying the father. All the midwives called me Mrs.W and I felt compelled to correct them, ?I?m not married, call me C?. (I?m an unwed mother, single parent to be, my child is illegitimate; too much information!). Quite frankly, in this day and age, I was surprised, they continued to assume, or felt the need for this formality. Amusing though it was to me, the father of my daughter was addressed as ?Mr.CW?(right title, wrong name), which he politely ignored.
A multitude of application forms, I realise, require a title with your name. In this day and age, if marital status isn?t required information, why do I have to prefix my name with a title tagged to marital status?
I actually, don't like being called Mrs. I am not married and didn't like it even when I was, but feel dishonest if I don't correct the assumption and rude if I do. I like formality in certain situations, what is a polite stranger to call me?
In the name of equality, dignity, privacy and clarity, I would like there to be one title to fit all women in a formal situation, as there is for men.
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To object titles tagged to marital status;Miss, Mrs. Ms
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chaoswoman · 10/07/2011 21:45
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