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To think this is a bit mad for a birthday party?

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ludog Sun 10-Jul-11 12:21:07

DD's friend has invited her to her birthday party. The birthday is next Saturday but the party is on Thursday night and includes going to the midnight showing of the new Harry Potter film. This means dd will be coming home at about 2am. Dh and I are up for work at 6am. AIBU to tell my 13 year old dd that she can't go to this party as it is on too late?
Just to add we won't have to collect her from the cinema she will be dropped off home.

Punkatheart Sun 10-Jul-11 12:24:17

But presumably she can sleep in?

catgirl1976 Sun 10-Jul-11 12:25:09

hmmm bit unreasonable but it is a one off......I would let her go.

Mind you - I think the parents arranging this should make it a sleep over at theirs just out of consideration

squeakytoy Sun 10-Jul-11 12:28:33

Why on earth go to the midnight showing?

I wouldnt be happy with a 13yo coming home at 2am, especially if I had to be up at 6am either.

ludog Sun 10-Jul-11 12:28:54

I assumed it was a sleepover which I would have been fine with, it is the fact that she will be home so late and that we will be woken by her coming in that I object to!

pictish Sun 10-Jul-11 12:30:42

Yabu - it's a one off bit of fun.

catgirl1976 Sun 10-Jul-11 12:30:43

Can you blithely pretend you still think it is a sleepover and embarass the parents into making it one? Or ask that DD stays at theirs? I can't imagine the parents of other girls attending are thrilled either

mumblebum Sun 10-Jul-11 12:32:04

Has she not got school om Friday?

ludog Sun 10-Jul-11 12:32:37

No mumblemum, we're in Ireland so all on holidays.

AuntiePickleBottom Sun 10-Jul-11 12:33:35

yanbu, it is too late the film is over 2 hours long, by the time she ge home and settled down is will be 3am before anyone gets to sleep.

TidyDancer Sun 10-Jul-11 12:34:39

I thought you were concerned about her! Since you are just worried about being woken, of course YABU!

Actually, since this is a one off and would be very exciting and harmless for her, I think YABU anyway!

pictish Sun 10-Jul-11 12:35:00

But as it's a one off....meh....why not. Etc.

Tchootnika Sun 10-Jul-11 12:36:44

Definitely with catgirl on this - good plan! wink

ragged Sun 10-Jul-11 12:37:00

I agree Pictish. Sounds like a supercool birthday idea to me.
You have kids, you have to suck it up (sometimes) on the middle-of-night waking.

hocuspontas Sun 10-Jul-11 12:38:08

But why will you be woken? Tell her to lock up after herself and creep upstairs quietly. YABU not to let her go. I originally thought it was a schoolday but it's the holidays!! MEANIE!!!! grin

Catslikehats Sun 10-Jul-11 12:38:36

Given some of the palava surrounding 13 year old's birthday parties you are getting off lightly grin

Pity the parents of teh birthday girl haven't made it a sleepover but Y would BU not to let her go.

G1nger Sun 10-Jul-11 12:39:39

I'd only let her go if they allow her to sleep over. YANBU. They are being inconsiderate.

Sewmuchtodo Sun 10-Jul-11 12:39:41

I have booked midnight showing tickets for my younger siblings.......sent them as a gift and my parents are happy to collect them at 2am.

It is a one off, never to be repeated opportunity that she will love!

ludog Sun 10-Jul-11 12:40:02

I make no apologies for not wanting to be woken!! We both have a days work to do. Is it really u to say my need for a night's sleep is of equal importance to dd's social life?

mumblebum Sun 10-Jul-11 12:40:28

Then I'd let her go. It's a one off. Give her a key and tell her not to wake you on the way in. I assume you trust the parents to deliver her home safe.

pictish Sun 10-Jul-11 12:41:03

Erm...on this ONE OFF occasion, yeah! Frankly.

ludog Sun 10-Jul-11 12:41:14

Oh and just to add, the birthday girl love HP but my dd has no real interest in the film itself.

catgirl1976 Sun 10-Jul-11 12:42:39

Sure she may not love HP but I bet she would feel left out if she couldnt go. Let her go and if you have to be woken up then it is just a one off. But I would form a little pressure group to make it a sleep over smile

pictish Sun 10-Jul-11 12:45:46

In short, if you say she can't go because you will be woken up when she gets home, then you are a blue meanie.

We shall all come to your house at 2 am and chant 'meanIE meanIE meanIE' and give you the slow hand clap.

catgirl1976 Sun 10-Jul-11 12:46:15

pictish grin

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