to give something back in return for grown out of clothes

[slovenlydotcom]

a mum at school has this year given me two or three carrier bags of clothes that her dd has grown out of

a work colleague gave me an enormous bin bag full of clothes that her teenage daughter has outgrown, some of which appear to be designer

I had thought of giving each mum a £15 next voucher so their girls can treat themselves

we will hardly have to buy any clothes for dd this summer as she has so many
so they have saved us loads of money

is this a big mistake? I would hate to offend them - I don't know either of them very well, so when I said 'can I give you something for them' and they said 'no' I left it at that, whereas with a friend I would have pushed it

[CoffeeIsMyFriend]

I think it is nice to do something for the children who have donated,its polite imho.

I give DDs outgrown clothes to other people that I know - some have never been worn. One of the Mums buys DD a little something - nothing expensive and a card to say Thanks. Last time DD got a cupcake shaped lipgloss, a pack of tissues with love hearts on, a sparkly pen and a little bracelet. All of which DD loved. It was a nice gesture - not necessary but appreciated all the same.

I have also given lots of clothes to a little boy with a massive bag of shoes from DS and got a thank you in return. Both are fine with me, I would much rather someone else used them that needed them.

[FriskyMare]

I pass on my DC clothes to friends and would never expect anything for them, after all, they are no longer any use to them, however, if you really feel you twant to give something, I think your idea of a voucher for the daughters to treat themselves is a lovely thought :)

[purplepidjin]

Are you sure that something with a cash value won't offend? Please don't get me wrong - a thank you for their kindness is a lovely thing to do - but you might find they appreciate something physical rather than vouchers. Also, I'm not sure a teenager with a designer wardrobe would use a Next voucher - I used to sell stuff like that to my Mum and use the cash elsewhere

How about you and DD make some brownies/cakes/biscuits as a thank you?

[BoattoHogwartsviaBolivia]

I call it baby karma! We have had bags of clothes from friends and family and pass things on to other friends and family. It all goes around and adds to the stuff in circulation. A little something is nice, but not necessary. If my friend kept giving me things to say thank you, I might stop giving her so much stuff as it would get embarrassing. I just want the bags of clothes out of the house!

[slovenlydotcom]

good point purple re the store - I think a little present then rather than a cash value; thank you for your help

[greycircles]

When I give clothes (mainly to my cousin), I just want them gone really. If they don't fit my kids then they are a total PITA taking up space. It's not just a good service to the recipient, it's a good service to the donor as well! I wouldn't expect anything back at all.

[greycircles]

Oh and just to add that I would be more pleased to see a child wearing the clothes given than getting a present.

[purplepidjin]

If you do still want to give a voucher, a big department store like Debenhams or House of Fraser might be better - more choice of brands and products?