My partner & I only see each other at weekends because his work is too far from where I live. He still lives with his mother about an hour away from here. We decided to sell my house & buy a place together close to his work & live as a family.
I am the one going through all the stress of keeping the house ready for viewers, agro from the kids (who dont want to move) & dealing with estate agents & solicitors, paperwork etc. On top of this I also have an alcoholic father causing huge amounts of stress & my mother died only a year ago. I also have an ex who persists in twisting the knife.
To be blunt, im unbelievably stressed, so much so I had an embarrassingly silly accident in my car last week. I dont think the other driver is taking action, but it shook me up.
The other day he announced he may not be able to come down this weekend because somebody had to be there for his mum.
His mother just has a minor surgery. Was in & out in a few hours. Ok, I accept its probably painful where the incisions are but she most certainly does NOT need 24/7 babysitting. Besides, she also has a daughter living there & a son in the area too.
If she was dying Id understand it, but she is a total malingerer & will milk any situation. She still uses her husbands death (19 years ago) in order to gain sympathy & frequently reinforces the children's sense of loss by encouraging them to buy flowers for their father & visit the grave, although she never goes there herself. I find the whole thing very distasteful tbh.
Now im being made out to be the bad guy, when really I dont see I am.
Am I unreasonable to expect him to support me?
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SparklePrincess · 08/07/2011 11:10
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