I have name changed for this in case I out myself.
My DH has what seems to be a computer addiction. He plays pc games all the time. If he is not at work, he is on the computer. This has been going on for years and years. I have screamed, jumped up and down, cried and begged for him to see the damage it is doing. He acknowledges he has a problem with it normally after 2 or 3 days of us fighting about it but says its his hobby and escape. He assures me that he will try and cut back but that obviously, never happens.
We are a family of 6 and there are 6 pc's in the house. I personally feel he has bought the kids their own pc's to make it ok for him iykwim. The PC's were bought many years ago and are upgraded and replaced as we go.
My question is this. I have tried many, many times to limit the time spent on the computers. I obviously have no control over DH's pc time (as much as I have tried) but the kids all have free reign as well. They have unlimited access to PC, internet, TV, Xbox and as a result they are on all the time. The kids see Dad on the PC and go on "with him". He will not help limit them or even tell them to get off.
I am at my wits end as this is NOT what I want and I feel the damage that is being done to the family and the kids as individuals is horrific. All of them, including ds4 (who is 10) is allowed any game with any age restricution as DH just buys and tells me I am being daft as its just a computer game.
DH has his own company but its from home. I feel like the computers have slowly, taken over my family and total control over everyone and I have no clue how to sort it. DH and I fight constantly about it but even if he (sometimes) acknowledges that its a problem, nothing gets done about it. He says he is a hermity person and its just who he is.
Sorry its so long but please, please tell me if I am BU and if I am not, what can I do about it. I am absolutely exhausted with it all and the way it affects our lives. This is not how I wanted my kids raised or how I wanted to spend my life. Please advice ways of sorting it.
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Eeep · 08/07/2011 09:50
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