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To be a bit afraid of my neighbour?

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Dnomaid Thu 07-Jul-11 14:01:46

The other day she put a note through our door saying she had seen my husband and my babies and wanted me to phone her (I have never spoken to her before). I was unsure whether it was a bit creepy or quite nice that she wanted to offer her help with our twins.

My DH thought it was rather odd, but I felt I should knock on her door and say hello, thanks for the offer, I'll let you know if I should ever need you and no I won't be asking you to babysit while I have a bath?!? (she suggested this even though we'd spoken for less than 5 minutes!)
During the conversation I managed to say that I hadn't actually left the babies at all yet ( not quite ready after they were in SCBU) and hoped that would be the end of it - just maybe a hello in the street.But now I've had another note asking if she can come round this week I know I am being a total wuss, but I just don't know how to handle this and how to tell her that I don't need her to be some kind of surrogate grandparent ( my parents live abroad), just a friendly face in the neighbourhood is enough.

I have actually avoided going out today so far incase she wants to talk to me - help.
Ps you may have guessed I'm not good at confrontations or saying no!!

BeerTricksPotter Thu 07-Jul-11 14:03:56

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

SusanneLinder Thu 07-Jul-11 14:06:35

She sounds a bit lonely actually. I would be polite but firm,or offer to go round to hers or something,so you can leave in your own time.

Obvioulsy when your DH is in,in case she turns out to be a mad axe murderer or something.Get him to phone you after 20 ins or summat. ;)

sunshineatlast Thu 07-Jul-11 14:07:11

Im not sure why you are fearful. It sounds as if she is trying to offer you support and be friendly. What exactly has made you feel it is creepy?

Why dont you chat to other neighbours and get a feel for general opinion before you vilify her?

yellabelly Thu 07-Jul-11 15:40:22

yes, neighbour things can be difficult dont jump to conclusions.

HowToLookGoodGlaikit Thu 07-Jul-11 16:02:49

Just politely decline?

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