To not spend any more time with in laws(9 Posts)
I have come the conclusion I will not be spending any more time with my mil
Fil is fab but sadly they are a pair
She refuses to come and visit us at our house because were council tenants
She has asked my oh to leave me Her exact words " when are you going to stop messing about with those ethnics and get yourself nice girl
Left early from our wedding - and didn't speak to me the whole day
Told my daughter not to call her nanny as their not related
Overridden me when telling my son off in front of every one and called me cruel
Wouldn't let me help with dinner then told every one later on how i done nothing
And constantly talks about her 3 grand children we have 2 his sister has 2 and his brother has 1
So I can guess whose kids she is referring to.
Also offered us a deposit on a mortgage as they have done with the oldest two after they got married so we sorted everything out and they called us over on the day to say they didn't think we would last so went ale to offer the deposit any more
Those are only some of the things
She has done and I am sick of her I don't want to spend any more time even breathing the same air so o told oh any family functions he can go on his own am I being out of order to be fair he finds her hard work and because of how she treats me dose not really see
her much but his sibling have gatherings were she get invited I wont be going back for christmas last year we ended up leaving early I was in tears the whole way home
You would be being bloody unreasonable to want to spend another second with this lovely(??) woman, maypole!!
Agree with SDTGirl. Sounds like it doesn't matter what you do or how nice you are or how well you raise your children, it will never be good enough. Fortunately it sounds like your husband knows how wonderful you are. I'd be telling the mil to stick it.
You are being completely reasonable! What a horrid woman, that is awful that she has treated you like this! What does DH say about it all, does he stick up for you?
It's probably a good thing they didn't give you the money, they'd be asking for it back or expecting to treat your house like their own.
Why do you spend time with them? It sounds as though they aren't fussed about seeing your children (and as though it might be a good idea not to let your children see too much of them, too). So if your dh wants to see them, he could go on his own. Better for him not to go either though - why would he want to be with people who treat his beloved wife in that way?
Did she go to the same charm school as my MIL?
I think until last christmas he was trying to walk the middle ground but when he told our child not to call her nanny he lost it and told her we were leaving.
And the whole mortgage thing was only 2 days after we got married and the first time I had ever seen him cry
I feel bad because even though she hates me I feel he is loosing out on spending time with his dad who is really very nice although a little hen pecked.
We have a family wedding on the 5th I will not be going I feel this is casting a shadow over my marriage
I don't want him to have to choose has any one else had mil issues
Ignore the woman. You don't have to visit her of course but, if avoiding her is going to make wider aspects of family life difficult, don't do it. Go to the family wedding. Be the bigger person. Others will then twig that she is the unreasonable one whereas if you don't show up, you might face accusations of being aloof.
It's unfortunate about FIL but maybe if you decide not to visit, he'll turn up the pressure?
This is really really bad. How terrible for you. I say you can go to this wedding with your head held high.
I think that this woman will probably be well known to those around her as being shockingly rude and everyone will be on your side. Even if they dont say so.
As for your FIL, your DH can ask him out to sporting events (even the local cricket ground) and to the Pub. Both no go areas for your MIL hopefully? Maybe a trip to the DIY store just really man type activities and then - whoops --- he is taken home for tea with his grandchildren. Get this sorted but yes, cut this woman out as much as you can. But never never never let her stop you from going to family functions.
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