So after getting up at six, leaving house for work at 7 and working until 3. Home at 4, make dinner, do dishes, do ironing, entertain ds and grandparents, give ds bath, calm down from grandparents, read 4 stories Aibu in wanting a little me time and not for dh to huff when I say I have changed my mind about having sex tonight and that a hot bath, caitlin moran's book and bed is more appealing?
That and hayfever playing up and every bone aches from taebo last night.
YANBU, not at all. My x had a 'you owe me one' attitude to sex - he seemed to think it was his right to have it when he wanted it, and if I refused (even on the night my DF was in the hospital after a heart attack and we didn't know if he'd survive the night) then we'd get the big huff. Things were different if I inititiated it - then he would be tired or not in the mood. Amazes me now that I stayed with him so long. It certainly became part of my 'list of things to do' - cook tea, feed baby, wash up, do prep for work, iron clothes, have sex. I tried to say to him that if he never let me refuse (never violent, just the big huff), then he'd never know for sure when I really wanted it, but he never really understood. He's remarried now - I'd love to know if things have changed in that department!!!