OMG she just has 2 poke her nose in & cover up 4 her son aaarrgh. My daughter's 14 now & she started th "teenage strops" last yr (not unexpected) However, she has begun saying she prefers 2 live @ her dads who happens 2 live with his mum??!!! So supagran steps in where he cant. i just so feel out of the loop because when she goes 2 her dads/grandmas thts it i don't hear frm her, i dont even no what she getting 4 xmas huh its such a muddy pond i have no back up frm my mum . I've spoke 2 my gal abt it as much as i can but hey what do i no??
Could you not explain to your daughter that you feel a bit out of the loop, she'll surely understand as she's older, if she's got a mobile phone maybe a text or two every day to keep you posted?
Is your ex partner permanently living with his mother and if your DD moved in would she have her own room and live there too? If he would be getting his own place in the near future you could explain to her how different it would be living with just her father and with no 'supergran' to spoil her.
How would you feel if your ex had a new partner who was then your daughters stepmother? At least the "other woman" in your teens life is her grandparent at the moment, which should be easier to handle.
Not sure why it matters that you dont know what they are getting her for xmas when it is six months away either. At 14 she can (and no doubt will) tell you what they are getting her, and what she wants from you.