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to think that the Pro-life Alliance's request for abortion figures using the freedom of information act...

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DuelingFanjo · 04/07/2011 19:50

... has actually shown that very few late abortions happen in this country (147 in 2010) and that the fact that there were ony 7 abortions carried out for Cleft lip and palate just shows that the constant barrage of posts about how often this kind of termination is carried out have been misguided and incorrect? Though I do understand that some people would think 7 is 7 too many.

story here I did a search and can't see a discussion about this which is a surprise. Maybe I am not searching hard enough?

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takethisonehereforastart · 04/07/2011 20:17

I can't even comment properly, it makes me too angry.

They have no right to these statistics.

I was hit by a fucking lorry and went into premature labour at 22 weeks. Three days of trying to stop the labour were all for nothing when they realised I had an infected placenta and all of a sudden the smug cow of a doctor was racing to get the baby out, all the time banging on about filling in the late termination paperwork.

To anyone with half a brain or an ounce of compassion there is no way my loved and wanted daughter's birth was a termination but to bastards like the Pro-Life Alliance she is just a statistic they can twist for propaganda and I'm the bitch that waited to long to kill her.

I'm pro-choice all the way but when that doctor told me that in the eyes of the law my baby's birth was a termination I told them to stick their intervention and let us die together. I thought termination would go on her death certificate as the reason she had died!

Smug cow doctor said she could have me sectioned and intervene anyway and it would be better for everyone to go along with it willingly.

My daughter would have been born regardless, the things they were doing to try and stop the labour progressing were not working and in some instances they made things worse. It was just that things were not progressing quickly enough.

My daughter and I are only one statistic to them but to me it was the worst experience of my life. Also, that statistic is part of my medical records and they have no right to have them to use for their hate campaign without my permission. And I haven't given it.

I know it's a contradiction because scum like that have no right to knowing my name, my baby's name or our story. But without those names or those story then we are nothing to them, they have no idea how hard it was or what we went through. They can make up whatever story they like and I can guarentee it won't be anything like the pain and heartache of the real one.

I lost my son to stillbirth and my daughter to prematurity. But to them, I gave her up to abortion to suit my own selfish self.

But through those losses I have met other women who have 'decided' to terminate because things were badly, badly wrong with their babies and they made the most unselfish decision of all. They 'chose' late terminations because often the problems can't be diagnosed properly earlier, or the severity of them can't be diagnosed properly earlier and they were clinging on with hope that was dashed.

They can paint the people to be selfish all they like but those decisions are agonising and they leave a grieving mother without a much wanted baby because that mother wanted to spare her baby any further pain and suffering. The mothers I know who made this choice did so because doctors told them their babies were suffering or would suffer through the birth and die anyway, or would die before their due dates and be stillborn. And it's not even right to call it a choice because when you have such a devestating diagnosis for your baby all choice is taken away. You just want to do the only thing you can do as it's mother. Stop the pain or the suffering or the struggle and let your baby go in peace.

It's hard enough, every single day grieving and wondering, without people like the Pro-Life Allience pulling stunts like this to rub salt into the wounds. If they cared about life they would be working hard to find out why we have so many stillbirths in this country and finding a way to stop it, or working for babies in the third world to stop the infant mortality rate from being so high out there.

They are utter, shitty scum, the lot of them. Sorry for mistakes. Crying.