I work nights., Monday being one of them.
He has Tuesday off, always has done.
On Saturday he tells me that he has to work Tuesday, can I leave work early otherwise they'll be no one home with our son. Well no, I can't. But what I can do is find a colleague who's working Tuesday morning and ask nicely if they can come in half an hour early and cover the last bit of my shift so I can go.
Oraganise myself Saturday to go in a bit early so I can phone colleagues and organise this (knowing that nobody would mind as I've done this for other people in the past). He gives me a lift to work, once there he says 'Oh, no. I'm not working I have a meeting at 10.30am Tuesday so no need to find cover.
Once at work I even ring him to confirm once more that he doesn't need to leave early. He says no. He can be home.
Today (30 minutes ago), calls me and tells me that his meeting is earlier and I need to leave work early. I can't fucking leave work early, it doesn't work like that!
I complained to him that I could've had this sorted out on Saturday and we wouldn't need to worry. His response? 'Well, try to get out 10 minutes earlier'.
I may not be raking in thousands or leaping up the career ladder but my job is important to me. I enjoy it. I don't want to fuck my work colleagues or manager around. If I ask to leave early I'll not only inconvenience people but I'll look disorganised and as though I don't care.
I have sorted it, my neighbours have stepped in to help but I really feel as though he's playing some kind of mind game with me. For example, if we row (rare) on a day I have work the first thing he'll say that he now can't babysit and I'll have to call in sick. It gets on my nerves.
He takes the piss out of my job and me only working two nights a week, despite me doing EVERYTHING around the house and funnily my income still pays half of our rent and bills. I don't ask him for anything in the way of money, I live off what I earn.
I'm stressed and wanted a little ranty-poo.
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MoonGirl1981 · 04/07/2011 18:31
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