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To be slightly annoyed that a woman who was smoking whilst pregnant........

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MrBloomsNursery Mon 04-Jul-11 17:57:16

OUTSIDE the maternity section of my hospital shouted at me for no reason because I just looked at her smoking?

I didn't even give disapproving looks - just looked and then looked away as I walked past because I don't like the smell of smoke - it makes me feel sick.

As I walked away she shouted something like "YEA I'M PREGNANT AND SMOKIN' U GOT A FUCKIN' PROBLEM".

I didn't have a problem with her being pregnant and smoking....but I don't like people smoking RIGHT OUTSIDE hospitals so I have to inhale 80% of their tar as I walk past.

It hasn't really affected me in a big way, but I don't want the woman to think I was judging her - I was just judging her chosen spot for smoking. I also think the woman (actually girl) was quite rude....She obviously felt guilty for what she was doing.

AIBU..... sad

M0naLisa Mon 04-Jul-11 18:03:27

I would have said 'my problem?' i dont have one but your problem is obviously you cannot read - iirc you cant smoke on hospital grounds nowadays.

LadyThumb Mon 04-Jul-11 18:05:36

Is this Knock Smokers Week? We seem to have thread after thread after thread on the subject!

Fernier Mon 04-Jul-11 18:06:32

YANBU she obviously had a problem with her own smoking people who make a fuss about things normally do. Forget about its not your problem and btw I totally agree about people who smoke outside hospitals.

eurochick Mon 04-Jul-11 18:09:24

I hate running the gauntlet of smokers outside any building.

PS - Are you sure you weren't looking just a leeeeeeeetle bit judgey? wink

Mumwithadragontattoo Mon 04-Jul-11 18:09:29

Guilty conscience I would say. She knows she's harming her baby so inferred you were judging her too.

LittleMissFlustered Mon 04-Jul-11 18:10:29

The staff at my local hospital were up in arms when the trust started enforcing the no smoking on the grounds rule. More so than the patients, as they just ignore it. Staff have to cover their uniform, get off site, smoke and get back in their allotted time. Patients just hover near the doors. Would love to see the patients herded the fifty metres or so off to the boundary too. Would make things slightly more pleasant when using the place.

bigfatcath Mon 04-Jul-11 18:13:58

I'm sorry but the poor child; mum can't be arsed to give up smoking whilst pregnant, mum who can't read or doesn't care enough to follow rules and a mum who shouts abuse at strangers!!!!!!!!

And I think I'm a crap mum!!!!!!!!

I'm pulling my judgey pants up so high my front bottom hurts a very lot!!!!

Happydogsaddog Mon 04-Jul-11 18:14:27

Its no different to walking past a bus stop or pub. Do you wear a gas mask to cross a main road or object to schools next to main roads?

shakey1500 Mon 04-Jul-11 18:20:17

Wouldn't be a problem if they provided a place for smokers to use.

Huffythetantrumslayer Mon 04-Jul-11 18:20:29

Snigger at pulling judgy pants so high your front bottom hurts!

BluddyMoFo Mon 04-Jul-11 18:21:26

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

unpa1dcar3r Mon 04-Jul-11 18:32:27

Did you drive to the hospital? In a car? Or maybe get the bus, or taxi? All emit poisonous fumes. As do factories we walk past, and all sorts of other every day things.

She didn't need to be so rude but perhaps you did look a little judgemental without realising. Maybe she hates being pregnant!

usualsuspect Mon 04-Jul-11 18:33:29

Not another smoking in pregnancy thread

Cleverything Mon 04-Jul-11 18:34:50

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

DooinMeCleanin Mon 04-Jul-11 18:35:57

You should have shot her. Clearly she is not capable of rasing a baby. I bet she smokes crack at home and will have her toddler mixing up her smack for her as soon as he is old enough.

cordyblue Mon 04-Jul-11 18:41:01

DH had to physically prevent me from whacking a smoking pregnant women with my handbag the appointment we went to discuss my stillbirth and the chances of me ever being able to carry another baby to term.

Personally I think it's inexcusable to smoke during pregnancy.

DooinMeCleanin Mon 04-Jul-11 18:42:19

I'm sorry about your still birth Cory, but it wasn't the fault of the smoking mother was it?

bubblesincoffee Mon 04-Jul-11 18:42:29

Is there any chance at all that you gace her a disapproving look? Even just a little bit?

You don't know why the woman was at that hospital, she may have had a reason why she was finding it too hard to resist smoking, and she may have had a reason that meant she didn't want to or couldn't walk all the way out of the boundary.

Mandy2003 Mon 04-Jul-11 18:43:27

She felt guilty for what she was doing to her unborn child. Would not have shouted at you otherwise.

xstitch Mon 04-Jul-11 18:46:43

I'm sorry for your loss. I know what you mean though. I found myself thinking 'I did everything I could and my baby is still dead yet they are taking massive risks, its not fair' I really don't think you can expect completely rational thought from someone who's baby has just died.

worraliberty Mon 04-Jul-11 18:53:28

Pregnant smoker putting her unborn baby at risk = Selfish

Pregnant obese woman putting her unborn baby at risk = Selfish

Yet if the latter had been stood outside Greggs eating a pasty, I doubt she would have been judged at all.

MrBloomsNursery Mon 04-Jul-11 19:06:32

I wasn't wearing judgy pants, because I had just come out of the ward thinking about my scan so didn't really care about anything else at that moment of time! I just merely glanced her way and then turned my head away as I do when I walk past all smokers.

Silly woman!!!!

drivemecrazy63 Mon 04-Jul-11 19:30:40

i am being judgy i hate smokers and even more detest people smoking whilst pregnant , i gave up everything bad and ate really well when pregnant , if you do that to yourself its your body its up to you i dont judge but hurting an unborn babys unforgivable ,i agree totally cordyblue some people dont deserve such a blessing

justkeepingheadabovewater Mon 04-Jul-11 19:38:17

Harder to tell if an obese woman is pregnant though...
(I speak as someeone who is classed as 'obese' by my BMI)

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