Congratulations, you are giving them the best of both words. "Benign neglect" is what I think it is called - give them all they need (and more) of things like food/love, but leave them to their own devices when mumsnetting as much as possible .
I guess it is possible to do that by (for example) giving them sweets or new toys all the time to shut them up or letting them play out as late as they want to keep them out of your hair but I don't imagine that's what you've been doing, she probably just wanted a dig.
What do you do? Give them £100 quid and send them off for the day saying don't come back before bedtime.
My DS is spoilt in many ways. Only child, LP family so gets lots of attention and gets to play what he wants, watch what he wants etc. But then again I can neglect him when he's playing - like now - but surely its good for him?
Sounds like a pretty cheap dig from your mum I'm afraid though.
well the neglect side refers to their lack of a vest one day when they went round in winter, their mucky feet yesterday after playing in db's garden all day, there grubby faces after eating dn's chocolate birthday cake and the fact that no matter what i do their hair is always a mess. apparently dd2 is spoiled and that is why she is struggling to settle at school because she is used to getting all the attention all the time (my eye I am far too lazy for that). anyway cnt beat a parent for making you feel bad. I quite like the contridiction though. anything good is all them (which it is and am very proud), anything bad is all me.
Not one of my children have ever owned a vest (apart from the baby ones with the poppers between their legs [proud emoticon]. They were often dirty (more often mud than chocolate for ds1, more often chocolate than mud by the time number 3 came along ).
I think you should just carry on (though I hope dd2 settles at school ). You do realise that is what mothers are for, to make us feel bad!
My ds2 (2) is currently covered in the following; water - from "painting" the fence sand - from sand pit paint - from crafting strawberry juice - from his pudding vasoline - he just loves the bloody stuff
The bathwater is going to be a VERY funny colour tonight!!!!
I am also mad and going to be unable to cope with dc's - we seem to be just fine chickens - had for 3 years and we also seem to be doing fine dog - again all going very well a wood burning stove - not got one but want one, apparently it will be to much hard work for me. another dog - going to keep that one to ourselves until we get it cant remember what else but basically most of the plans I make and chat through with mum, think I am starting to learn my lesson here. only having a moan really, mu is lovely and helps me out loads.
anyway sounds like my children are cleaner than all yours (just got out of the bath).
Mine have just come in from bashing each other about with a giant cardboard tube in the garden so we have sweat, mud, blood and tears ( smallest one got a bit of a wallop ) and chocolate ( to cheer him up again )
If I leave them for long enough it will dry and drop off ...
Oh vests, don't start me on my mum and mil on vests. According to my mum I can be too strict with mine yet she constantly says how well behaved and good natured they are And while we're on subject of the backhanded compliment mine told me that she really admired "my lack of ambition" ie how I was happy with my house, job etc and hadn't made the same mistake as her and my dad of "overreaching" re the area I had chosen to live in.