Talk

Advanced search

AIBU to say something?

(9 Posts)
elisadoeslittle Sat 02-Jul-11 21:23:25

I have a friend who was a bit crazy before she got pregnant. She started dating a lad and immediately fell pregnant. They decided to stay together, she calmed down and he seemed a nice boy. All was good.

Fast forward 2 years and everything you ever hear from him is how amazing his son and my friend is for raising him. She does the best job ever as a mum, shes beautiful, hes beautiful, he loves his little family. This is in RL and on the internet. Hes posted maybe 300 pics of the boy.

Fine, proud dad, whatever. BUT he has another son. Exactly 9 months older than my friends DS, who I have only heard him mention once. I feel so sorry for that little boy, when he is old enough to see FB and his dads photo blog and what not, he will see that his dad never mentioned him, never said how good a job his mum did of raising him, never said how much he loved him. Its nothing to do with me at all but I really feel like pulling him up on it.

worraliberty Sat 02-Jul-11 21:26:17

Perhaps his ex isn't ok with photos of their baby being splashed across the internet?

To be honest, I think it's pretty pukeworthy and it's certainly not something I'd do with my kid's photos.

I keep them in an album and bore show friends and relatives when they come to visit.

shakey1500 Sat 02-Jul-11 21:26:27

YABU, it's none of your business.

CocoPopsAddict Sat 02-Jul-11 21:33:30

You don't have to 'pull him up on it'... why don't you just say "How's DS1?"?

Andrewofgg Sun 03-Jul-11 09:06:30

Stay OUT of it.

BluddyMoFo Sun 03-Jul-11 09:08:31

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

meditrina Sun 03-Jul-11 09:11:17

It isn't any of your business, and I cannot possibly see what would be achieved if you attempted to tell off another adult about matters with which you are entirely unconnected.

fuckmepinkandCALLmegoran Sun 03-Jul-11 09:14:55

You know absolutely nothing about the situation that led to the man having no contact with his son. For all you know, his heart his breaking that he cannot have contact with his child.

You would be best off to keep your nose out. How and why would you ever think it was acceptable to "pull him up" on it? What would you say?

"What about DS1 doesn't he get a look in?"

And then the guy would be forced to explain to you what happened that he can't or won't see his child. Which would be any of your business how? And would be helpful how? And would achieve what?

YABVVVVVU

kreecherlivesupstairs Sun 03-Jul-11 09:16:20

Are you the envy mother of DS1?

Join the discussion

Join the discussion

Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.

Register now