Disgusting! I would be fucking furious. Is this the first time she has done this? Why did she? Have you ever told her never to do this? (not that you should have to) Have stern words that this is not to happen again or she won't be aboe to drive your dc anywhere
We spoke about it when I was PG that I didn't want anyone smoking near him and when we visit she goes into the garden/other room to have a cig .
I have a feeling its a case of her thinking I wouldn't find out as I wasn't back when she dropped him off with a friend of mine. I was told by that friend. I've asked DP to speak to her as he'll deal with it a lot better than me.
Its the first time she's looked after him in 2.5 years anyway so chances are this'll huff her and she won't bother with him for another 2 and a half
Members of DP's family smoke around their children. It's such a selfish, ignorant and stupid thing to do. I can't believe any adult would do it to a child they claim to love.... but I suppose that is where the selfish, ignorant and stupid bit comes in.
Up until quite recently, my dh would smoke in the car with the children in the back and the windows open (on long journeys). However, he then heard something on the news that said smoking one cigarette in the car with the windows open exposes a child to the same amount of smoke as sitting all night in the pub with them. He stopped doing it that day. Sometimes people don't realise quite how harmful their actions are.
Does your MIL actually realise how unhealthy it is to smoke in a car with kids? Maybe she's never had it spelled out to her? Quite apart from the smoke aspect, she effectively has one hand out of action so will be in less control of the car.
And does she realise how minging it is when small children smell of cigarette smoke??