To be gutted that my only babysitter is going to uni in September :(

[faintpositive]

She is ace, and i love her to bits.
We go out about twice a year me & DH and ds loves her too.It is a rare occasion for us to go out anywhere.

Thing is, we have a friend who we have known for 20 years, its her 40th in September and she has asked dh to do her a little gig at her party. He used to be in bands years ago and played guitar. He is delighted and has said yes.

I was going to ask mil if she would have ds for us over night. We NEVER EVER ask her to have ds, she has him for the odd hour about twice a year thats all. He has slept over once or twice and loves it.(he is 8 btw)

Anyway, my friend has said that she is going to invite my pil to her party. They will defo go especially as dh will be playing. Its a 50 minute drive away where the party is.
So i cant go as we litterally have no one else to babysit and its a no children do.
I am pissed off that i will have to miss her do and miss dh playing a wee gig.

[MrsFionaCharming]

Could your current babysitter recommend a friend?

[fuckmepinkandCALLmegoran]

I would ask your babysitter - she's bound to have a friend who would babysit for you and she could bring the friend round to see DS before the gig, so they aren't a stranger iyswim?

[pranma]

what part of the country are you in faintpositive?

[faintpositive]

Northwest

[faintpositive]

I dont drink so would probably be home before 11pm, so wouldnt even need her to have him overnight.

Ah well, not to worry.

[textpest]

Could you ask her anyway? She might still be around when the party is on or, if you offered her train fair etc, she might come back if she isn't going far.

[FebreezeYourJeans]

Could he have a sleepover with a school friend?

[smudgethepuppydog]

My DD doesn't start Uni until the end of Sept, is it possible that your will still be around when you need her?

[faintpositive]

Unfortunately, ds is not even invited to any birthday parties any more, so school friend i think is out of the question.

My lovely babysitter is the other side of the country bless her.

Just gonna have to suck it up and quietly grumble about two 62 year olds going to a rock music party and how they KNOW what great frineds we are AND how it has got to have been about 10 years since they have seen my friend.....grrrrr

[confuseddotcodotuk]

Has she got a sibling? When I left the area my little sister took over my jobs just as I took over my older sister's jobs when she left home! Or, you can start finding somebody now? Childcare student or keen older teen?

[AgentZigzag]

I know it's not in your OP faintpositive, but why is your DS not invited to any birthday parties any more?

If you don't mind me asking like.

[PatriciaHolm]

Why not use a service like Sitters? It will be more expensive, but as a one off?

[exoticfruits]

All you need to do is get her to recommend a friend from the year below at school.

[LauraIngallsWilder]

Surely the answer is just to find another babysitter - or am I just being simplistic?

I would befriend another local teenager - I dont really know many kids locally but there are teenagers obviously. I would advertise or try really hard to make friends with a few! Or another mum or grandmotherly type who I trusted.

I wouldnt miss out on an evening out I really wanted to go to - just find another babysitter!

[schroeder]

There are agencies that offer babysitting, if you can afford it.

Can you ask one of the Mums from out side school. Offer to recipricate and leave out some tea and biscuits at least.

I suffer myself from a dearth of babysitters, both sets of Grandparents are hundreds of miles away.

Sometimes you have to stick your neck out and ask someone. An 8 year old is easy to look after, if I was a bit closer I would do it myself.

Like others have said: ask your old babysitter if she knows anyone.

I hope you find someone

[duchesse]

Ask her for a recommendation of a friend quick-sharp, you will have 3 months to get used to her! There must be someone of a similar ilk that she knows in lower sixth.

[Laquitar]

I had to read the OP 3 times and i still fail to find the problem and the question.

Your ds is 8yo. The party is in september. Today is 3nd of July. Am i missing something?

[giraffesCantZumba]

A child can have more than one babysitter.

[sleepdodger]

Could he ho to the party and be put to bed there?

[mummytime]

I have moved on to younger sisters, friends of babysitter, and then just whinge to everyone in sight, until someone offers a daughter/son or the phone number of their babysitter.

[FetchezLaVache]

Dammit, woman- you have three months to find a new babysitter, not secure the services of an internationally renowned expert on the works of Georges Bernanos. How did you find this babysitter? Can you not try that method again, or ask her to recommend someone, as others have suggested? And yes, you are being incredibly unreasonable to be "gutted" that this girl is off to uni, just because it will put you to some slight inconvenience!

[Andrewofgg]

I think OP is engaging in auto-urinary extraction (taking the piss out of herself) by even asking!

Such is life: friends and people we rely on move on, change address, change their working hours - DW and I had a wonderful reliable plumber and a wonderful reliable dentist and they both died.

Good luck in the search. In what's left of the term can't you ask around among the parents of DS's classmates?

[faintpositive]

whop whoop!!! She doesnt start till the end of sEpt as some one pointed out.
She has booked us in, i LOVE her. She is my cousin and i trust her implicitly.

Ahhh im chuffed to bits.

I presume that as kids get older parties are smaller afairs with a few close pals, just becuase they are expensive so her doesnt get invites nowadays. He doesnt seem to be bothered tbh.
I LIKE to plan ahead as my social calender is very very limited, as i say we go out together about 2 maybe 3 times a year so iREALLY look forward to nights out when they come up. Needed inspirational tips on how to make sure we go.
Im happy happy happy.
Andrewoffg....what in the hell did you do to your plumber & Dentist to cause them both to die????