I'm posting this here because I honestly can't work out whether I'm overthinking this.
I work in a place with a lot of women, mostly in their 30s but single and into clubbing and stuff. I'm married and not really into the same sort of thing. I am quite friendly with a particular group of them, we've worked together for a good few years. The thing is, there's a definite clique going on, which I don't want to be in as some of them I don't like, but two of my closest work friends are in the clique.
They are all going away for two nights and I'm invited. I'm sure I'd have a good time but don't really want to go away with people who I don't like! They've never done anything terrible to me or anything, one I've fallen out with in the past because we just have a personality clash, and another I think is a bit of an attention seeking bitch.
So AIBU to not go because of these people, who make up a couple out of maybe 10? It's not because I think they'd do anything, I would just feel a bit of a hypocrite.
I'm only talking about you because you'd never get me within 10 miles of the two nights away but maybe instead of seeing it as a clique you could see it as a close group of friends who want to include you in that group.
It could be a good time for putting the falling out behind you once and for all, she could be totally different outside work (HA! yeah right ).
So I would say go outside your comfort zone and leave being a mum at home for a couple of days, the worst that could happen is you'll have a reminder of what you've got at home that makes you happy, at best you could have a really fucking great time.
I don't dislike all of them, just a couple, and two are quite close friends. Also to be honest I don't have many friends after moving city, but I don't know whether a social life with some people I'm not sure about is better than none at all.
I don't have kids actually, we are ttc so maybe I should go now while I still can! I just wish it was easier to meet like minded people, but it seems difficult when you are married, especially to a man who isn't very sociable. It'd be nice to meet some people in the same situation as us, who want to do dinner rather that clubbing. I feel like I'm so starved of a social life that I'll go away with a group that I don't want to be in! People say that you make new friends when you have kids, I hope they're right!
My DH isn't social either. I used to go away for on group activities about 12-18, but people splinter into smaller groups (which can be different for night and day activities). If you'll enjoy the activity then go, a group that large you're not going to like everyone and it's easy enough to ignore them.
Look at it the other way. This might be a chance to get to know the people that you don't like in a setting other than work. You might find that they are different outside of the work environment.
You also say that you would probably have a good time anyway - so if you still don't like them then just get on with what you do like and spend time with who you like. FGS it's only 2 days, not 2 weeks.
If you don't go you may well be cutting off your nose to spite your face.