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to just want someone to say congratulation

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biddysmama Wed 29-Jun-11 22:41:36

i'm 9 weeks pregnant.. i have a 9 month old baby, a 27 month old toddler and a 9 year old with aspergers... so far ive had

"you'll probably lose it anyway with thm being so close together" that gem was from my mum
"how will you cope"
"you need to stop breastfeeding" (i tandem the 2 littlies)
"if you dont stop bf you will lose the baby"
"do you think you will cope"
"do you not think it would be better for you not to have a baby yet?"
"you better get toddler into nursery"

im pretty hormonal atm, just want someone to say something positive, im starting to dread telling people sad

znaika Wed 29-Jun-11 22:42:50

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A1980 Wed 29-Jun-11 22:42:52


I'm so pleased for you grin

Lilithmoon Wed 29-Jun-11 22:43:16

Congratulations smile

celadon Wed 29-Jun-11 22:43:34

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noeyedeer Wed 29-Jun-11 22:43:43

Congratulations! I think you're a brave lady with 3 so close together!

Onemorning Wed 29-Jun-11 22:44:57

Congratulations! grin

princessglitter Wed 29-Jun-11 22:45:12

Congratulations smile I had 'you're joking' and MIL not commenting for 5 months with my 3rd. Mine are 19 months, 3 and 5.

Terraviva Wed 29-Jun-11 22:45:21

Congratulations!! smile

Fairenuff Wed 29-Jun-11 22:45:22

Congratulations. YANBU Those are thoughtless comments, take no notice of them. Good luck and let us know when the baby arrives.

queenmaeve Wed 29-Jun-11 22:45:27

Congratulations! Ive heard crap like that often. Just smile and remember their comments are really about them and not you smile

ChazsBrilliantAttitude Wed 29-Jun-11 22:45:50


EggyAllenPoe Wed 29-Jun-11 22:46:07

i loved the busy-ness of having 3 in 3 years (though not twins!) - it was great.

doodledaisy Wed 29-Jun-11 22:46:15

Congratulations, I'm very jealous, for a number of reasons we are stopping at two. You're very lucky to be having another one. I hope your pregnancy goes well and that it works out well. What do you have so far? Boys or girls? The joy of having them so close together is that they will play together. And it must be hard work having a nine year old with aspergers, but you sound like you love being a mum. Congratulations.

AgentZigzag Wed 29-Jun-11 22:47:00

Firstly, CONGRATULATIONS smile smile

Secondly shock and angry at the disgusting things said to you.

What horrible, spiteful things to say, I'm feel so sorry for you having to hear them.

Don't dread telling people, those comments are unacceptable, and it wouldn't be fair to judge everyone on those base standards.

I think you're really lucky to have such lovely aged babies all around you <<sucker for a babys round kissable face>> grin

biddysmama Wed 29-Jun-11 22:47:51

i have boy,girl,boy.. my guess atm is girl smile

PacificDogwood Wed 29-Jun-11 22:48:56


You are doing a wonderful job.

Your 2 littlies are not close together btw - perfectly reasonable age gap. And there is a bit of a gap to your oldest; what is it, people want??

Ignore, ignore, ignore all the unhelpful stoopid comments.
And of course listen to all the wise MN grin.

Bohica Wed 29-Jun-11 22:49:49

Nah, whats not to congratulate!

You have a family of young childreen that will have common interests & grow up close in a loving family enviroment.

Congratulations btw [smie]

doodledaisy Wed 29-Jun-11 22:50:22

Well whatever you have, hope it all goes well. (secretly wishes it was her that was having another).

PogueMahone Wed 29-Jun-11 22:51:09

Lovely having the younger ones close together - they'll be such good friends.

PeopleCallMeTricky Wed 29-Jun-11 22:51:20

Congratulations! They'll never be short of someone to play with. They'll entertain themselves a lot of the time.

elliejjtiny Wed 29-Jun-11 22:51:47

Congratulations. I got pregnant with ds3 when DS1 was nearly 4 and DS2 had just turned 2. DS1 has mild ASD and DS2 has mobility problems. I wanted to have dc3 before DS2 got too heavy for a pregnant woman to lift but people thought I was mad. Yes it's hard but it's also brilliant.

PacificDogwood Wed 29-Jun-11 22:52:10

FWIW, I had 12 month age gap, then 4 years, then 2 years - all boys grin.

Just think of all the comments I got about 'needing to have another to get a girl' 'you must be soooo disappointed' 'how will you cope' 'you must be mad' etc ad nauseam. People do suffer from foot-in-mouth disease quite often when they don't know what to say...

<<stops ranting>>

pissedrightoff Wed 29-Jun-11 22:56:55


riomoonlight Wed 29-Jun-11 22:56:58

congratulations and bigs hugs.
All babies are blessing whenever they come.

but what i want to know is how do you have the energy for sex? does it come in tablet form and where do i get? says very tired mother of 1 10month old!

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